she thinks I had an affair with her husband. I have known him for 7 years, and he bought me flowers for my b-day. We have the same b-day. I bought him a bottle of wine. My husband knew of all this also. Just a friendship bouquet. All done innocently. Now his wife found a receipt for the flowers and thinks I am having an affair.
She just wont stop digging into my personal life..ie..phones, email,my space.com, I notified the police in several cities.
They are tired of me calling and asking for help.
My husband even tried to stop all this nonsense.
We have never even talked to this woman at all.
Any suggestions? Thankfully, my marriage is strong enough to put up with all this b.s.
2007-08-21 03:42:55 · 13 answers · asked by diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lies to her husband always, and he catches her. she can not be trusted. He has tried to control her, but she doenst listen. she always does bad things and is very vindictive to everyone. she is sick and needs help I think.
There are such things as male and female friends. I have friends, and my husband has his friends, and we all know each other. What is wrong with a married man buying flowers for another married woman when they are friends?
2007-08-21 04:29:00 · update #1
As a former advocate for victims of violence my best advice would be to document all of the contact she has had with you and all contact you've made with police (get copies of police reports). Write down dates, times and be as specific as you can regarding the contact she has made with you. Second hand info (friends/family) should be written out by that person and then notorized by a notary public (usually one in government buildings). Put all this together and then find out if your county issues restraining orders and what type--no contact, no harassment are usually the two available. There usually needs to be sustained and identifiable harassment to get these and some places they're expensive. You could also get a free consultation from an attorney asking what your rights are or how to obtain a restraining order. Usually though you just need to call your county clerks office for that info. Hope it helps, been there myself.
2007-08-21 04:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In most states there is laws against stalking. Stalking is defined in the civil codes or statutes and carries a penalty. Send a certified letter to this person stating that the civil harassment is unwelcomed and unwanted. Secondly state to her that if she does not cease and desist with her current harassment that you will seek an injunction against her (Order of the Court to her to stop with the stalking or harassment). If you do obtain an injunction and she violates the court order the police will have no choice but to enforce the order of the court and you can have her arrested for contempt and she will go to jail. Of course there is alot involved to getting to this point but if she runs the full distance there is more wrong than just harassment. This will protect you and your family and create a cushion that this person is not allowed by law to enter without legal sanction. Let her make the decision but you will need to take the steps as she violates your privacy or civil space. Once you do she will observe your rights and privacy or be incarcerated and fined or both and pay you restitution as she is also civilally liable. Legal advice might be a good idea also. Start a journal and keep the activities of this person daily and log the time, date, event and outcome as it occurs as this will be a good piece of evidence when the hearing comes for the injunction if she persists that far. A journal is admissable in court and will be the most damaging piece of material in consideration for the judge in designing a court order against this person and you can make her responsible for court costs for your attorney also. It does not pay to be wrong in a court of equity.
2007-08-21 06:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is her husband doing with all of this? He needs to control her her nonsense! Set up a meeting with all 4 of you guys and talk about it. She may be acting like this because he could be a player and played on her on other occasions. But that's her issue not yours. Her husband needs to step in!
However, why didn't the wife know about you or the flowers?!
2007-08-21 03:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by lisa9479 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she found a receipt for something like a hotel room then she should worry, besides if she checked her husbands banking statements she should be able to come to the conclusion that you two are just friends.
2007-08-21 03:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by fashionista diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see....her husband has you as a friend and you've never even spoken to his wife. Her husband hid the fact that he bought you flowers from his wife, and now you're confused as to why she would think it's an affair?
You've never done anything to reassure this woman and now it's too late. Deal with it.
2007-08-21 03:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, that is what you and her husband get for buying gifts like this for each other...I don't blame the lady...you should be taking the wine to your husband at home and he should be buying his wife flowers, and that's that...a line was crossed...friends or no friends... all of you need to sit down together...and discuss this...even if it takes all night! =) good luck...and don't make the same mistake again =)
2007-08-21 03:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a restraining order, but if she is harrassing you online, then that won't do any good. The best thing would be to change accounts, get a new email address, and myspace account. . . leave the old accounts open so she can check those.
2007-08-21 03:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cops can't help you until she commits a crime. Go to the prosecuting attourney's office and file for a restraining order. That will take care of the problem.
2007-08-21 03:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by tempest_twilight2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One answer married men shouldn't be sending flowers to another woman, unless she is hospitalized or had a baby. It would have pissed me off too.
2007-08-21 04:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um.... what about her husband? I think he needs to step up here and get a grip on his wife. If he is a good friend then he would not allow his wife to harrass you this way.
Talk to him and see if maybe you, your husband and this friend can find a solution together.
I think she needs to go!!
Good luck!!
2007-08-21 03:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋