A recent study showed that kids are happiest in a 2 parent household. Instead of staying together unhappily just for the sake of the kids, how does an unhappy couple reconcile and become happy again?
2007-08-21 02:47:10 · 7 answers · asked by isuckatphysics 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you be more into each other...thats what my husband and i had to do...we got rid of the net...he stopped going out with his friends and i stopped going out with mine...we started doing things together as a family...stuff that the kids could be involved in too...and our marriage totally improved...and if we do go out...if one cant go or we cant find a babysitter for our girls then the other dont go out at all!!!
2007-08-21 02:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by MiZz SaAk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes work, compromise, and communication from BOTH parties involved. You have to want it, and you BOTH have to be willing to do whatever it takes. You have to identify the problems accurately, and come up with solutions to the problems. It is that simple. Marriage counseling is always a great start. That said, if ONE parent is not willing to do all this, then it is simply over. Recent studies ALSO show that a child is happier in a happy one-parent family than in an unhappy two-parent family. So a divorce is always best if problems cannot be reconciled. Staying together for the sake of the kids is a very bad idea. Kids can sense the bad vibes, it stresses them out, and causes psychological problems. It also teaches the children how NOT to have a relationship when they grow up. The truth is that you are right about a 2-parent household, but some marriages cannot be salvaged, nor should they be. The best thing is for people to NOT get married or have kids until they have found the secret to long-term success in a relationship. Some people have it. Some people don't.
2007-08-21 09:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!! I am going through this same thing right now. We both have stopped going out without each other. Now we go out only once a month and we are together for that. It has helped. And we also are doing more with the kids. Which I love!!! Kids can't keep us and u together but I think it will help the situation for the family to get closer!! Good luck to you and I am going through this with ya!!!
2007-08-21 10:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go back to the core of what worked when you first got married-now most people have children when they get married so the children should already be factored in. But remember you cant just go back-you have to act and start doing some of those things
Next be nice-stop being mean to each other and making snide remarks. Instead give compliments everytime you are near and everytime you prepare to leave-this will boost your mates spirit and ultimately have him or her showering you with compliments too
Next-if you are religious I highly reccomend prayer-Families that pray together stay together.
2007-08-21 09:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan romantic settings for two. Take a small vacation with no kids and go out and buy some lingerie. Spice it up. Make a date night so you guys can reconnect again. Start looking sexy and taking time to fix yourself up with a new hair style or a new outfit from time to time so he can notice.
Be spontanious with sex if the kids aren't home clear the table! Make it fun.
Good Luck.
2007-08-21 09:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the couple needs to set up a foundation. Like, have you noticed that most couples that Really rely on God and put him in the first place of their lives don't break up? That's beacuse he is there foundation. when thay have a problem, they turn to Him and He answers. by becoming a beliver, you get the advantage of someone taking care of you. Couples that rely on God get their prayers answered which can take away stress from their lives. I hope you know what i mean... and God Bless!
2007-08-21 11:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by pinkminidot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to understand your partner's likes and dislikes and act according to it. be open with your partner, don't try to hide anything from your partner. make him/her that being with you is like being in paradise.
2007-08-21 10:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by destiny rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋