what has happened to me?

Question

i don't know anything but my world has turned upside.i shout at my dear ones.i get irritated very quickly and shout at others. i m a short tempered person but things did'nt used to go this way as it is going now.i realise my fault and feel guilty.i don't know what to do. in this way i m losing my freinds and even i my mother would start disliking me.i need some good advice.

Answer 1

You sound like a stressed out teenager. You need an outlet. Go to a thrift store an buy a cheap aluminum baseball bat and go to a junkyard and get "destressified". Wear safefy glasses

Answer 2

The answer is to get a hold of your emotions and behavior and exhibit more control over yourself when you're dealing with others.

Shouting at people generally gets a swift reaction, which is why being an aggressive person can be a vicious cycle.

However, it will hurt your relationships with the people you care about and you need to get it under control. Think before you speak and make it a priority to be rational and level-headed, even when you're frustrated.

A lot of the time, exercising (aerobic, like running or swimming laps) regularly will help you mellow out during the day and be more relaxed when dealing with annoyances. It also helps fight depression and anxiety, which might be working a little bit behind the scenes to make you more irritable.

Answer 3

Dr. Keith Abler says that there is a new "Anger Disorder" that is brewing in America. After watching several of the shows on it, I have to agree with his finding. Women of all ages are coming to terms with explosive rage or violent outbursts during quite normal life disappointments.

From what I've been witness to, I see a trend forming in the women that he's consulted. 1. There is some serious issues that you have not dealt with from your past. Things you "think" you've put behind you but clearly have not. 2. You've given yourself permission to believe that your reaction is not only warranted but needed. That's very dangerous. 3. You have an unrealistic expectation of what is going to happen to you every day.

When you come to terms with those truths you will begin to find your answer. I hope you do and I want you to know that there are hundreds upon thousands of women who feel exactly the way you did when you wrote this question. You're not alone.

Answer 4

How old are you? You may be experiencing a hormone surge (which should be temporary). The classic mental health triange is: exercise, nutrution and self maintenance.
Do Exercise daily - this will help you 'burn off' the chemicals that make you feel bad.
Do be sure you get enough vitimans and trace elements from your diet (or take suppliments) as things link zinc, selenium and b complex are needed by your nervous system.
Do work on this. Learn to relax, keep interested in positive activities, learn to control your emotions. Practice makes perfect.

If this condition gets to the point where you CANNOT control it and it is seriously affecting your life, then consider professional help such as counseling.

Answer 5

Any chance u have too much going on in your life? Too much stuff in your room/house?

A few weeks ago I felt pretty much the way u describe. I really thought I was going over the edge. I took a large rubbish bag and filled it with stuff from everywhere. Cleaned off shelves, cleaned out cabinets, cleaned out closets....all to the dumpster, no yard sale, no Craig's list, no eBay etc just gone......yes sir yes sir 5 bags full

God did I feel good and still do. Even when I realized I threw out my toaster it seemed great because I could go shopping for a new one and I had a place for it to go. New features on toasters etc were interesting. AND I actually needed it....

I call this my "Don't let junk control you" therapy

I think there can be toooo much stuff creeping into our lives and it makes it impossible for us to relax and have a little fun each day.

Answer 6

I think you may want to look into seeing a therapist. They can really help you with discovering the WHYs of what is bothering you and help with HOW to cope. You might even have signs of depression...the feeling of irritability, loss of control, guilt. Talk to a professional...your own doctor is a good place to start. We all hate to admit we may have a problem dealing with things and we hate even more that we may need help but it's much better to treat your problem now and nip it in the bud before things get much worse. I just want to say, you are not alone. Try to cut back on your stressors. Figure out what things are really important and what you can let go and not worry about. We don't have to be perfect!! HUGS and best of luck!

Answer 7

Dear, you sound like a young teen whose re-orienting herself as hormones and age begin to really have their influence on you.
Do your best to eat balanced meals (protein is vital) and get enough rest, it'll do a million wonders for your nerves and ability to use self control.
Also, try to slow your mind down. That is, start allowing yourself a second to PAUSE before reacting verbally in situations. That'll give your 'better sense' a chance to take over and will allow you to more likely say things and behave the way you truly want.
And, without getting religious, pray some. Verbalize your concerns in prayer (however you choose to do it-even privately in your head), and see if there is an improvement with that element added.
I'm a mom, my pre-teen is starting to have a real-l-ly hard time being her 'usual' self and is struggling with new ways of thinking and acting. It's hard for everybody, all around.
I wonder how teachers can stand it...they must go home and kick their dogs (joke)!
Very best wishes for your peace and happiness.

Answer 8

You're under a lot of stress, obviously. You may be going through a life phase, or you may have some sort of chemical imbalance in your system. I advise going to your family doctor and telling him/her about what's happening. The doctor will examine you and take some blood tests and your blood pressure and give you advice and/or medication, if you need it. No one can diagnose your problem at this distance, so take a day or so to see your doctor and get your life back in order.

Answer 9

Seek more guidence then you can get from Yahoo Answers. We can only guess at your situation because we can only see the effect of your actions. To get to the cause, we would need to know your environment and current state of mind.

I hope things go well for you and your temper subsides.

Answer 10

i most def suggest going to therepy just to really get into figuring out what the real problem is. but i personally think you might just have a lot of stress and thats what makes you that way i say try finding ways to relax. try doing yoga once in a while and i still suggest seeing a therepist