Well one of my best female friends has some problems at home, Her parents are divorced but still living together and her mother is an alcaholic.
She got into a fight and got really upset and came to me for help, I helped her out, talked to her and made her feel better about life and told her things dont always go well but in the long run everything works out.
What should i tell her that can make her feel better if anything like this ever happens again to her or any other of my friends?
2007-08-21 02:37:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Shes tried school counselor's i think, But if not i will ask her to try it out.
Btw i think some people are thinking i don't like her going to me, If you think that then im sorry but you got it muddled up :P.
I DO like to help people with their problems/situations because i feel good about it and i feel as if i have good things to say because most of the time iv been in their situation and if i haven't i try and use similar situations to talk to the person about.
From my point of you life isn't that great in anyway you make it , But it doesn't mean my friends have to live it in fear or nobody their in their same age barrier to talk to about it. After all i think its better discussing problems with people within your age group rather then adults or such.
2007-08-21 03:22:38 · update #1
You done good!! All one can really, effectively, do in these situations is listen with making judgments.
2007-08-21 02:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by lollipop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you did the right thing by just listening to her without making any judgments. Second of all, she needs a real professional who she can talk to. If therapy is not an option, then I would suggest going to a support group. I believe it's called Alanon (I could be wrong though--you should research it) and it's a group for people whose family members are alcoholics.
2007-08-21 02:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Diet Peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be supportive, I had a friend who was the same, and often it helped just to talk to her and let her spill her feelings out to me. Other times, I would just invite her round, take her to the movies (it depends whether you would feel comfortable doing that) to take her mind off stuff. The most important thing for you to remember is to stay strong, make sure that she thinks that you know what you are talking about (even if you have no idea), it will make her feel much safer. Hope that helps!
2007-08-21 02:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by moi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not alot you can say. Really you just have to be there for them and tell them things will get better it just takes time. Unfortunately anymore you can rely on family for anything. So you just have to work hard and get yourself out of a bad situation as soon as you can. It can be stressful believe me I know. I have been through alot with my family and I am out on my own now and I am only 20. I have been on my own since the day I graduated. So the best I can say is just be there for them and let them know that it will be OK it just takes time.
2007-08-21 02:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by ???? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is having trouble then keep telling her that everything is goin to be ok if she acts normal infront of her parents! Tell her that she needs to talk serioisly with her mother about the whole alcaholic thing you know..
Anyway also tell her that she can always talk to a school counsiler and her doctor about this and help!!
Hope it all goes ok
2007-08-21 02:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Skater1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that she can always come to you, no matter when or where. That you'll always be a shoulder for her to lean on. I had a friend in a similar situation. She'd call sometimes at 2:00 in the morning. I'd listen and tell her she could come over to our house if she wanted or I'd come get her. Our house had a revolving door for my friends.
2007-08-21 02:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Slim J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve done the right thing theres not to much you can do. she has to get out of that house. if she continues to live in that house (if she lives in the same house) shes going to cotinue coming to you for help because theres always gonna be something wrong. so you have to just be a good friend and help her either get her own place (if shes old enough) or help her stay out of the house keep her mind on something else until its time for her to go to bed so she doesnt have to be in the house she can just be out all day.
2007-08-21 02:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by ~*[AnD]*~ 4 lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can do any better. Thats great what you d id for you friend. Take it from someone who was raised in an abusive home if i had a friend like you my life would be a lot different. Just be there for her
2007-08-21 02:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lenababi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do except be there and listen. It will be a world of help to them just to have someone to talk to. Pay attention. Empathize. Don't criticize or give advice, unless they ask for it. Just be attentive and listen. You do that well, and you'll always have friends for the rest of your days. Good luck!
2007-08-21 02:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always helps to let them know that you'll always be there for them, you know?
Like, if they're having a hard time, then they can always come to you for comfort or advice.
2007-08-21 02:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋