OK I am married for (10years) and I caught my husband in a phone conversation with another women 8 months ago. And he really says that is all there was. Yea right!!! Should I have an affair with one of his good friends?? This guy text me all the time he is very good to me and we get along great!! I really like being with this guy. What should I do???? Should I or not???
2007-08-21 02:07:56 · 22 answers · asked by sunshine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should have an affair.
2007-08-21 03:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why did I feel like i was reading a high school girls diary.
you're obviously old(er) considering you've been married 10 yrs., so why are you acting like a child? if you can't cope with this conversation he had a loooooong time ago, then you need to move on. leaving him may sound drastic, yet cheating on him as "pay back" is so low you'd be better off leaving him.
also, if you simply wanna get with this other guy cus apparently you like the attention and some-what have a thing for him.. don't use your husbands convo. as an excuse or "reason" to cheat. man up and realize you're no better than how you look at him.
2007-08-21 09:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by who?what?when 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting texts all the time from some guy other than your husband, you are cheating. You are using a simple phone conversation your husband had to give you reason to do something ten times worse. Congratulations on being such an upstanding person..not. Why don't you leave your husband and run off with this guy so your husband can find a woman who is true to her word and will love him. You go run off with this guy and he'll cheat on you with some other married woman.
2007-08-21 09:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you want to end the relationship you are currently in,then do so and move on with your life. Then have fun with the guy you are interested in. Do not become one of those women that due to there insecurities and suspicions- no matter how backed up they may be- gets even with revenge sex.
have an open talk with husband, and either forgive and forget or end it. Don't expect the full truth out of him. But do what is best for the both of you.
Remember, don't ignore your gut feelings, but don't add to the drama either.
2007-08-21 09:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right... what if all there was, actually turned out to be just talking. Think about how you would feel for doubting him and then going out and having an affair because of it. On the other hand, if you are determined to have one, why not step up and just divorce?
2007-08-21 09:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're looking for a good reason to get a divorce. Affairs are so petty and so wrong no wonder our divorce rate is so high any more. If you're really concerned then screen his calls. May be he's just looking for a little more attention (as most guys do). Trust me it's not worth it.
2007-08-21 10:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by skyicedragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband does drug will do it also to get even? That is ridiculous. People should either learn maturity or forgiveness. Did you forgive him? if so then it is over don't bring it up and certainly don't do a stupid thing like sleeping around. If you didn't then you have an issue with him that needs resolved. you cannot run away from the problem and think it is ok for you to cheat on him just because he did on you.
2007-08-21 09:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, NOOOO!! I was just in the same situation that you were in. And as it turns out, he was telling me the truth (although it involved more than one girl and not just phone convo's) Anyway, I messed around on him last year and I just told him about it. Yeah, at the time it felt great, I thought I was justified. But now I know that hurting someone because they hurt you is not the way to go! I feel so horrible about myself for doing it-even if I absolutly HATED my husband I wouldn't do it again. Plus, this way you have the upper hand-you did nothing wrong. So, don't mess your marriage up, like I did mine.
2007-08-21 09:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Hick Chick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel very bad for you soul you should read the bible girl and not be set of ruining your marriage just because of a lil indescretion 8 months ago.. shame on you for even thinking of cheating just to get back at your own husband wow wheres your level of commitment to the vows you took lady
2007-08-21 09:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Pastor Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I hear is somebody who has made up her reason, her argument, and her mind...and now you want us to tell you it's ok. Well, it's not. You're an adult. Do what you feel you have to, and live with the consequences in your heart.
Even if your husband did cheat, which you have ZERO evidence of, why would you become a tramp over it? And what if you became a tramp, and you found out you were wrong? I think, you're acting too impulsive and too contrived.
2007-08-21 09:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by justaguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, what were they talking about? My husband talks to women on the phone alot. Doesnt mean he is sleeping with them.
Two wrongs do not make a right. If you are looking to "get back at him" then there is more wrong with your relationship then you are letting on.
IF he is/was having an affair (and talking on the phone once 8 months ago isnt an affair), he wasnt doing it just to piss you off. There was underlining reasons behind it. (I.e. unhappy). You sleeping with someone else just to get back at him is just wrong.
2007-08-21 09:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by shedevil2230 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋