My husband has cheated on me in the past. In my heart I believe he really has changed now (I know people say that all the time) but I still have trouble convincing my head of that and trusting him. I even have dreams about him cheating on me and the littlest thing can set it off (such as just seeing a commercial that makes me think of it, or anything else little). For people that have been cheated on more than once, how do you move on and really forgive and try to forget?
2007-08-21 01:45:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get on your knees and pray for your husband. Ask God to remove all the negative emotions and thoughts from your heart and your mind. Ask Him to give you a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit. If you don't forgive, God can't forgive you for your sins.
You need to stand for your husband, because Satan has taken control of him. The affairs have nothing to do with you. So, you can't take it personally. Go to this website for encouragement. God Bless!
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php
2007-08-21 03:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: 'how do you move on and really forgive and try to forget?'
Answer: 'You don't '
You Leave and start a new life with a faithful, respectful, trustworthy, loyal person. You didn't mention any kids, but I assume that is what's keeping you to this horrible person. Look at the other YA! on here - staying with someone because of kids makes things worse. You will NEVER, EVER be able to forget what this person has to done to you, no matter how much you try to forget. As you said, it is always in the back of your head. I think enough has been said. The rest is up to you. You are the one that has to live with this and it is your choice to move on and start a new healthy life. Good Luck.
2007-08-21 08:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, but when you find the answer to that one, please let me know. It is the worst pain ever. You go to bed thinking it about it, you wake up and think about it.....it is a never ending gloomy cloud that I HEAR in time will go away. Are you sure he cheated, dis he confess? If so, that would be easy, I would leave. The only reason I am trying to make it work is because I cannot prove it and he has beaten me down into thinking I am crazy and he is innocent and I am horrible. Trust me, I will know the truth one day, what goes around comes around, but in the mean time, I am trying to figure out ME and what I need.
Good Luck baby, I know how you feel completely !
2007-08-21 09:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by peaches8866 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to "forget" not "forgive" when it comes to sharing your life with a cheater. You need to learn to trust him and somehow put the past out of your mind or it will drive you crazy. Tell your head it is in the past. If that is not possible or if you feel that he is cheating again, then you just need to divorce him. You deserve a better life and you know it. One thing....was he sorry he cheated or was he sorry he got caught? Big difference.
2007-08-21 08:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can say you forgive but why???Listen honey,when you are betrayed by someone,that person becomes a stranger to you.You no longer see them through the same eyes so you do find it hard to forgive because if this face they are showing you now was visible before, you wouldn't have fallen for him.Well now that person you thought he was has proved to be just a false image and the person who now stands before you has been revealed and you don't know who he is.Decide if this person that's appeared is the one for you.You already know that he's liar and a cheat, so what's left to your decision but to decide if a liar and a cheat is Worth forgiving.NOT.......
2007-08-21 08:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is easy, forgetting is the hard part. That i'm afraid you won't forget. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Anyone who could do that to their spouse obviously didn't love or care in the first place. The best thing you can do is end it. Trust me, i know.
2007-08-21 09:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by linkinparkblacksabbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had this happen to me. I do know people who have gotten through this kind of thing to be married for more than 40 years. I would think about how I would feel without him in my life. Think about the things in our lives together that make me happy. Probably this kind of grief and pain is like that of the death of a loved one in that it is a grieving period, recovery period for the pain to lessen and to become used to the idea. The memory probably will never go away, the pain will lessen and your recollection of that time will be bridged by many new and happy memories together. It can work, I have seen it happen.
2007-08-21 08:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really forgive you can say you do all day long but the reality of it is you will always remember and always hurt from it. You'll always have the imprint which makes it difficult to move on. Take it one day at a time
2007-08-21 08:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married twice, both cheated on me, not because they were not getting what they needed but some guys just have no will power to say no, a pretty girl smiles and flirts and they can't keep their pants zipped. I refuse to let two losers like that destroy my future happiness, so I just get on with life.
2007-08-21 10:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God everyday. He can and will heal your marriage.
2007-08-21 08:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Patito 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋