2007-08-21 01:38:02 · 14 answers · asked by mejnicho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you want to? it will be arkward n very strange... but if you must you have to go to court and have it legalized about visitation
2007-08-21 01:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "force" someone to do anything, and even if you could, by virtue of the fact that you're estranged, you're probably the last person on earth he'd receive that information from. Give him time to put his feelings into perspective and he'll be back. They're his children, true, but they're also your children and interacting with them is less appealing if he knows he's also got to deal with you. You're estranged for a reason, so you've got to expect seeing you is not especially pleasant for him, and since you have an unfortunate tendency to use terms like "force" (even if that's not what you really meant) it is nonetheless a barrier against what you really want, which is his involvement in the lives of his children. Words like that reverberate around in our heads and we want nothing to do with you until we can put that all into perspective.
2007-08-21 08:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to force visitation on the estranged spouse. It won't take much to have the kids see that he/she doesn't want to be there or have anything to do with them. That person also may tell the kids things you do not want then to know about you or your relationship with the ex spouse. Don't make excuses for that person either. The kids are smart and they will know you are lying. If they are 10 or over, just be honest with them. Things may change and the kids will always respect you for your honesty,
2007-08-21 08:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You cannot make a man love his children, either.
This is one of the heartbreaking things in divorce. Unfortunately, men do walk away from their children. Never mind Fathers4Justice, I'd like to see a Justice4Kids.
Every child on this planet is entitled to the love of his father and his mother. Unfortunately, some of us choose very low quality men to be the fathers of our children.
My own ex-husband would not visit his children, even though he was holidaying in the next town and had not seen them in over a year. They never get over the hurt.
Edit: Your children will be able to look him in the eye one day and ask him why. He will have to answer them.
2007-08-21 08:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for almost three years now... in our divorce decree he was ordered to pay child support and he was ordered to have visitations every other weekend.... to this day he has never up held the court order to get the kids every other weekend... I called and even went to the court house and was told that yes infact he does have a court ordered but they couldn't really force him to get the kids.. I was crushed... so to answer your question.. NO you can't force someone to visit their children.... call your family law office at Circuit court in your state and see what they say...
2007-08-21 09:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lee-Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you cant and even if you did it would be no good for your children. They would sense that they were only being visited because the parent was forced too. Get the kids some counseling to help them deal with this and work through their feelings. Get some help to help you too so your feelings for this person aren't shown to your kids.
2007-08-21 08:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Why would you want to anyway? The fact that "forced" even comes into the picture would make me rethink having them around my children at all. The child doesn't need to be subjected to anymore of the drama or bull crap! The missing parent needs to cowboy or girl up as the case maybe. They are hurting their child, allot!
2007-08-21 08:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
If you have to force him/her to visit their own children..Are you sure you want this person to be part of their lives?
2007-08-21 08:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is NO not in this country anyway!
2007-08-21 08:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do that? You should be trying to set a good example for your kids.
2007-08-21 09:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋