How do i deal with a very jealous husband?

Question

I have Been with my husband for 5 years,being married only for three. I am a stay home mum of three children,live my life for my children and my husband whom i love very much, but it seems when we go out he doesn't like me to talk to anyone. including men.

And i sometimes find it very hard to deal with as i have always been in the hospitally industry and alot of my customers are men. I grew up with two brothers and i guess i was a tomboy and can talk to men eaisier than women.

My husband has been hurt in the past by two women and he thinks we are all the same. How do i reasure my husband i am not them.

I don't go out partying or anything if i'm going to have a drink i stay at home as i don't have any real friends that i can go and see.

I love my husband very much and some great advise would be great. Ifeel like my life is going no where as i spent 16 years with a man and realised he was no good for me and i feel like i am repeating it again.

I went to a 21st party 2 weeks ago and my husband was off doing his own thing talking to who he wants and left me sitting their posted so i started to mingle with people (as i am a people person and love to talk and mingle with people)

Basically he got jealous cause i wasn't sitting their waiting for him to notice me so i started taking and it happened to be a fella and he ended up punchining him in the head and was told to leave ,i chased him as a loving wife that i am and was told to fxxx off so iwent back to the party.

Ended up coming home to my furniture being burnt and told that i was nothing but a sxxx and he left the next day. I have nothing to be guilty of as i would never dream of cheating on any man especially my husband/ the one i love.

I was in a relationship for 14 years with my first and found that he cheated on me and have been with my husband for 5 years . If loving your husband /man is being guilty of something than pls tell me what i am doing wrong.

Answer 1

And perhaps you sometimes feel guilty of whatever he acuses you, aren't you? There is something wrong : he is wrong , not you. He is ill : of jealousy. Jealous men are absurd .
You love your children . I also have children and I love them more than my life. You say you love your husband. What about start loving yourself? Not a selfish love, but think of your children which you take care of. Love yourself as their mother. You must have respect and trust from your husband. You must tell him to trust and respect you. Do wou understand that you don't have a life of your own? If he dies , or if he leaves you, you have no friends? You ask question on Yahoo answers , because you cannot talk to someone real ( look at me, I had a horrible marriage, a monster as a husband, and I talk to strangers as I cannot tell to my loved ones about what happened, not to upset them more than I already did).
Get a job. Even part time job., but not at home. Your life will start again. This will be your fresh start - you will grow, and grow , and , in 2-3 years you won't recognise the woman that you are right now. Trust me, I've been there.

Answer 2

You say it seems like he,well that statement sounds like his behavior is unusual.He of course has always been this way as he has issues with trust.When people have issues with trust they certainly shouldn't marry with out resolving those issues.Now that you are married you are ready to deal with what should have been a red flag and getting him to change his ways is gonna be difficult and maybe impossible.Some people are satisfied in their beliefs and don't budge for others.You say the other women caused him some hurt,well you don't know what those women went through with him as you're only getting his side and men rarely see what women need.I always advice women to listen if they can to the past woman's story if possible for they usually have good reasons for letting a man go.Good men are hard to find and some women try,but won't accept relationships that aren't full filling their needs as well as having to full fill a mans.

Answer 3

anger is a problem and guilty is another i feel hes the one that is cheating maybe and hes very guility of this and he can't live with himself that is why hes doing this to you and if he did this i would end it now yes 14 years is long time or more but its time for the person to moveon there is not living with this type of anger and jealousy.

Answer 4

You must be an attractive woman!Tell him that at the end of the day you are sleeping beside him, in his bed, and that he needs to deal with his self-esteem issues.

Answer 5

take him for counselling {}