what should i do after finding out my husband was cheating om me in my first anniversary?

Answer 1

Decide rather you wanna stay or go! If you want to stay, talk to him and try to work things out.

Answer 2

I feel for you darling no man is worth staying with if he has cheated on you,as the saying goes once a cheater always a cheater,and you will probably find that if he has cheated on you now, he probably cheated before you got married.

And guess what honey at least you can say that you married this man not being guilty of anything and you can sleep easy at night knowing that when you took your vows you meant everything that you said to him on that special day.

And it isn't for me to say or anyone else to tell you what to do,only you can make that choice,wheather you can forgive him and trust that he won't every do it again. You need to go with your heart, because love is very hard and its the ones who do right by the loved ones that get hurt in the end.

I really wish you all the best , and all i can really say is do what is right for you.

Good luck sweetie xxxx

Answer 3

Sweetie, don't give him a second chance. Let him know that you are not going to take it and leave. You are better than him and you WILL find somebody else. I know its tuff and sad but its not your fault. He is a slimbag and a sleeze. If you stay, he will only do it again and again. Although he may be more careful about you not finding out. Life is too precious there are more fish in the sea, cut your loss's now or you will be in for more heartbreak. Once a cheater always a cheater - they say

Answer 4

if he is doing it than he will continue, get out before you have children, and makes things more complicated. I was lucky and got of my first marriage before kids, I was not so lucky on my second, I even gave her a second chance after I found out about her affair. But of course she had another affair. My lesson learn I have a bad taste in women. So I reevaluate and I have a great lady for 7 years now.
So get out while the getting is good, once a cheater always a cheater.
MO

Answer 5

Have you confronted him about this? And what was his reaction?

Both of you made a vow to be committed to each other. He may love you very much and made a huge mistake or this may be part of his true character. If he is a serial cheater, then his vows meant nothing and he shouldn't be married; if it was a one-time stupid mistake - then you two can work on it.

Answer 6

Do you trust him now?probably not.Does he even seem the same person you thought he was???probably not.Sounds like you are now living with and married to a stranger.A stranger who lies and cheats.Make your decisions based on reality.Don't give a hoot to what others think.This is your life and you must decide what treatment you will and will not tolerate.

Answer 7

I think you already know what to do. You will have to find the strength to do it. OR you can be a doormat and ignore his infidelity and maybe hope he wont do it again.

Move on and find a better man. They are out there.

Answer 8

Decide if you want to stay or not and then get counseling together. find out if he is going to be faithful and do the work it will take to get you to trust him again. If he is not then leave.

Answer 9

Sit down and talk this whole matter out find out of he wants to stay or go...... if it was me i would have packed his bags and leave them on the outside of the door.......

Answer 10

thats a hard one sweety, once trust is lost its very, very hard to get it back. hope the best for you guys, good luck