I know this girl, whom I only kissed once and nothing has happened between us since.She didn't want to go further,so we remained friends.We met up this wkn with a group of friends and we ended up chatting alone after clubbing about 'US'!
The questions which stuck in my head is:1.Why can't I tell her how I feel about her?2.I can't make her change,it's the way she is?(she's had 2 1 night stands-I told her she deserves/can do better)
3. Why don't I do 1 night stands? 4.Why am I so against them?
5.Does this mean she wanted something to happen that night? We were also cuddling tightly/kissing each other on the neck/cheek a lot!She said she cares about me a lot!
Please be honest ladies.....
p.s. nothing happened,not even a snog and I don't do 1 night stands!
We do have a history(not sexual)in that we both get jealous when we hear/see what we've been upto with other's e.g. girlfriends or boyfriends
2007-08-21 01:27:09 · 9 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We ended up arguing as I accussed her of being cheap/easy for having 1 night stands - she said she hates me and wants to break contact for awhile/ for good! I did apologise and she forgave me, but the nxt day she didn't want to speak about it,said it left her frustrated(not literally).We left on good terms I believe - though she's ignored my txt msg's since.
Have I blown it with her?
2007-08-21 01:59:45 · update #1
You probably don't do one night stands because you feel you need more than that from someone. And she sounds very confused! She must want something to happen between you or she would not keep having these chats with you. Maybe she has been hurt in the past and is afraid to open up to you? She reacts whenever she hears you have been with someone so must feel something for you. Can you not try to chat to her and see why she is so closed when it comes to having a relationship with you. I think maybe telling her that you will not wait forever for her may make her sit up and realise she is losing you and could have something really special with you.
2007-08-21 01:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simply maybe she mistakenly thinks sex is a sign of affection. You should stick by your own beliefs, I have tried the 1 night twice and it was horrible on both occasions and I have no desire to repeat. Maybe she is actually insecure and waiting for you to make first move - why dont you ask her to flicks? she can only say no. (which admittedly might hurt, but at least you'll know wher you stand). And past relationships have no place in a new/current relationship - make a rule not to discuss it. no matter what. She might even think for once she has found a fella who is not after one thing, I think you shoudl ask her out - away form the crowd, just the two of you.
I have attached a web site which has restaurants for all budgets, in case you decide to go for a meal - some do deals so it need not be expensive, and then see her home - you might be what she's been waiting for, a man who respects her.
2007-08-21 08:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Helen C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proper COMMUNICATION is what's needed here, just ask her if she wants to go out with you or not, you've got nothing to lose, she must like you alot if she likes your company and affection so either she takes it one step further or you will have to part of the ways, if you aren't into one night stands its cos you are wanting a more serious relationship and want to go out with someone who really luvs yer not just kisses you etc for the hell of it or just for the attention, stop messing about and ask her out and if she says no, move on as she's playing mind tricks and only likes to flirt and isn't ready for a relationship yet.
2007-08-21 09:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I read this somewhere else?
Theres definetly feelings for both of you. You wouldn't get jealous otherwise.
You may aswell be kissing each other on lips if you kissing on the necks.
You've got morals and thats why you wouldn't do a one night stand.
Just ask her on a proper date... couldn't hurt.. could it?
2007-08-21 08:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how u feel for her. I doubt she is not ur type. and u might get hurt at the end. So better clear things asap. more u get involved more difficult things will turn
2007-08-21 08:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
foerget about her..is not your type...you need a nice girl not one who loves the1 night stands!!!!she only trise to look for fun that's all ..you don't. so forget her!!! good luck
2007-08-21 09:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Poly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't drunk then yes it sounds like she has feelings for you. be a man and just let her know. at least then you would know how she feels
2007-08-21 08:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE YOU TWO WAITING FOR?!!! Sounds great to me! A really good friend that I WANT and he wants me...!
I say go forward my son...
2007-08-21 08:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon Shangri-La 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that you may love eachother?
2007-08-21 08:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by wise old owl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋