Me and my ex have stopped corresponding because he tells me he's still in love with me but i love him only as a friend, and the thing is we get on like a house on fire.... he said it's all or nothing eventhough i have a man, what would you do in such a situation? quite frankly i'm sick of it now.
2007-08-21 01:01:08 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
it's time to go your separate ways.
2007-08-21 01:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by The Unknown Soldier 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing !
This situation could cause friction between you and your new guy unless he knows for sure that nothing would happen between you and the ex (and that's the problem, convincing him). It's fine to have friends that are men outside the relationship but if there's an incling of doubt in your new mans' head that something might go on or he asks you about it allot then I'd seriously consider not contacting your ex for a while. Sounds like he needs closure. Give him time to find someone else and get over you if he is still in love with you. It doesn't work "staying friends" for at least a year coz you always ask digging questions to each other.
Get rid for a good while and concentrate on the new bloke
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2007-08-21 08:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Red5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should retrospect the reasons why he is your ex. If those reasons can be erased then I suggest you two get back together. He still loves you... and Sweetie stop bluffing yourself that you love him as a friend! You still love him too! Only two people very much in love can get on like a house on fire! Well all I can do is urge you not to lose him!!!
2007-08-21 08:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a predicament.
If he loves you, and cannot just be friends with you, then the sensible thing is to choose 'nothing'. I know it's really difficult, but I've been through the same thing. I had to cut her out of my life because I couldn't bear to just be friends with her, I wanted 'all'.
In the long run it is wisest to call it a day, hearts will be torn and mistakes will inevitably be made. It is one of the hardest situations when you love someone in a different context than which they love you.
2007-08-21 08:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by tinotoin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been on both sides of that situation, and to be honest, It is a real pain and headache on both sides, currently I have to stay in contact with my EX(The girls BM) because of my oldest lives with her and the youngest three live with me. Trust me I have learned it is better to not have contact. Our divorce was due to her having an affair, (not once but twice) yes shame on me. The weird thing is she is the one with the hang ups, I moved on, and she has not. I would break contact with her if it was not for the girls. She gets hurtful and vengeful at times.
So my advice is, he ask for it all or nothing, than tell I guess it is nothing and move on with your life. You can not be held up, or put your life on hold, because he is not willing to except reality and move on.
MO
2007-08-21 08:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by MOs fishin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the ties...it's not worth the aggro. U already have a man & if there is constant bickering when u & your ex r 2gether, then it's not worth having him around.
Meeting up at family functions should b the only time u need 2 c him.
2007-08-21 08:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Metalhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Than nothing.
You don't love him, you can not respond to his feelings, than it has to be nothing, because you would feel bad otherwise.
It is hard to lose friend, but keep in mind that he never asked only a friend in you, so that has never been option between you two.
You have your man.
And even if you don't, you said that you don't feel for this guy anymore. So, if it is everyhitng or nothing and you are aware that you can't go for everything, than it has to be nothing.
Anyway, if you try to stay friends he will grow his hopes and that would eventualy ruin friendship.
2007-08-21 08:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is still in love with you ? as friends ? consider the possibility of jealousy when he sees you with your man , this will break his heart , do you really want to hurt him ? and if you were with your ex as friends one day when your man suddenly appeared out of the blue do you think there would be friction between them of any sort ? so for his own sake let your ex go quickly instead of INDIRECTLY stringing him along breaking his heart knowing he still loves you ..... look to the future of next year , he will have a new love and perhaps THEN you can be friends without recriminations of love or possible jealousy but for now dont string him along unless you really want to hurt him , all or nothing ? look to the future of next year and you can have it all as friends he will have a new love and perhaps THEN you can be friends without recriminations of love or possible jealousy
2007-08-21 08:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by insenergy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a man then you don't need your ex, especially one that wants to have a relationship with you knowing you already have a man and don't fancy him!
2007-08-21 08:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sali90♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants an decision then it sounds like you will have to say nothing and unfortunately loose a friend.Its pointless the relationship being one sided and unfair on you both
2007-08-21 08:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by hunniiuk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard but it's goodbye he obviously cant do the friends thing. Same thing happened to me and i still miss her as a friend but hey ho.
2007-08-21 08:05:39 · answer #11 · answered by dave_uk06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋