If you were stuck with an unwanted pregnancy, would you consider adoption or abortion?

Question

Just to add, I'm not 16 and I'm not considering aborting or adopting. I'm happily married with a son and another on the way. I'm just asking for people's views on the subject.

Answer 1

I have had 3 unwanted and unplanned pregnancies. I decided in the end that it was me that got myself into this situation so I pulled my head out of my butt and kept all 3! I made my bed so I had to lie in it BUT if it ever had to come down to those two options, i would definitely adopt out, probably to family.

Answer 2

i got pregnant when i was 17. i was scared at first and went to an abortion clinic because even though i wanted my baby i thought we'd be on the streets and have no money (i lived in a hostel and they told me no pregnant women could stay after 6months). i was scared and didnt know about housing so i went to the clinic and sat in the waiting room. it felt wrong. i looked around and there were about 6other women. they looked like secretaries and lawyers - business people. and i was just, me.
i went into the room and the consultant asked how far along i thought i may be. then i said, im not interested. i dont want it done and i'd like to go home now please. she gave me some info for if i changed my mind and i left.
i had my baby and i am glad i did. i wouldnt even consider abortion again regardless of my circumstances, and even if i had an unwanted or unexpected pregnancy, i would keep the baby and he/she WOULD be wanted and loved regardless.
i think that you are asking this question for a reason, maybe to justify something in your own or someone elses life. if you are or are not, it doesnt matter - but what i would say is that you only realise how wrong abortion is when it stares you in the face. as for adoption, nice idea but it can also be complicated because the child can trace original parents, and adoptive parents can take original parents to the csa. oh and then the child blames the person who adopted them, then theres the risk of rejection. its too much crap really and a lot of people just foster rather than adopt, cos once you've adopted, you dont get the fostering allowance or free car. i know cos my uncle does it for the money and hes an absolute ba**ard.
so i wouldnt do either. i'd keep and love my baby, and any child growing inside me would be wanted regardless of my situation.

Answer 3

I would consider both rather than bring a child into the world that 1) I couldn't financially provide for 2) I couldn't emotionally cope with and I think the important part of the statement is Unwanted. A child needs to at least be wanted. I have three sons, all grown up and I love each one but I can also see that there are times when a pregnancy needs to be terminated......What if you were raped would you rally want to look at the baby and have a continual reminder of that time.....Sorry guys I know there will be some that says its not the babies fault and I appreciate that .....but until that foetus can survive on its own I don't see how those statements apply

Answer 4

I personally would not consider adoption, I could not carry and give birth to a baby and then hand it over to someone else.

I also know how little foster/adoption parents there are and the problems that adoptions can cause for everyone involved.

If I knew within the first 12 weeks and was certain that I did not want the baby for whatever reason I would terminate the pregnancy, if for any reason I was beyond that point before I found out or if I found myself in difficult circumstamces later in pregnancy I would not conside termination or adoption I would somehow manage and do whatever I could to make the best of the situation.

Answer 5

Unwanted or not, I'd still make the choice to keep the child. I have to be responsible for my actions. Now if adoption or abortion are the ABSOLUTE only answers, I'd opt for adoption. I'm not knocking anyone who gets an abortion, it's just not for me. I'm not a big fan of adoption either, but in my opinion it's the lesser of the two evils.

Answer 6

What kind of question is that? I don't believe in abortion I would only be able to accept it if say someone was raped and couldn't deal with it you know? But it is not a birth control! Use a condom and there would be no such thing as UNWANTED! As for adoption I would never give up one of my own but it is a good way to deal with UNWANTED and give others a chance to enjoy being a mom or dad who could not naturally!

Answer 7

I'd probably choose adoption. But then, it would certainly depend on the circumstances under which the baby was conceived. For example, to have become pregnant through my own ignorance I'd probably choose to have the baby adopted. BUT a baby conceived as a result of violent means (ie rape) I would probably look more into aborting rather than adoption, mostly to give full closure.

Answer 8

Adoption seems lots greater tricky than abortion. not in hassle-free terms is being pregnant incredibly grotesque/uncomfortable/painful for some, a girl could could desire to sacrifice her physique- which will look diverse after giving start- as a manner to renounce a toddler for adoption. toddler start is i'm instructed, the main excruciating discomfort there is. a girl's existence is susceptible each time she provides start. Her vagina is often diverse after childbirth. Her hormones would be out of wack. She could lose her choose for intercourse or the female emotions that make us females sense so stable. She could undergo postpartum melancholy additionally. A start mom additionally sacrifices herself emotionally. there is an emotional bond a girl could strengthen together with her unborn toddler even understanding that she will supply it up. That bond could stay with a girl all throughout the time of her existence and she or he'll consistently think of bearing directly to the youngster she gave up, thinking in the event that they are ok and in the event that they have made the perfect decision. there'll consistently be a ingredient of her lacking and adjusted with soreness and guilt. There additionally are way too many little ones accessible waiting for human beings. human beings are not adopting on the comparable value that young ones are submit for adoption. some little ones strengthen up and on no account get a family individuals. there is no assure that an adoptive family individuals will deal including your toddler the way you will like for them to be dealt with the two. not all adoption memories are stable ones. greater effective, we are over populated. (Now for the judgement you do not choose.) i don't in hassle-free terms like the assumption of abortion the two, yet except you're a toddler merely now considering this difficulty, i don't see the way you will be able to desire to even ask this question.

Answer 9

Keep it please. I had an abortion when I wasnt married yet. I DO NOT RECOMMEND IT AT ALL.Now I am married and my 2 kids were unplanned I decided to keep them both and believe me its worth it. Im pregnant with my 3rd they are all 3 years apart I am 26 with 3 kids. My husband and I dont qualify for wellfare, financially we will be burdened. I cant believe I even considered having an abortion again! Its just wrong. Please dont consider having an abortion nor adoption. You know they wont be babies forever. Just be thankful and look at it as a blessing, coz it really is.

Answer 10

Adoption. You may regret having an abortion years down the line.