yesterday she came home from the movies and told me they had their first kiss. she's 16. as much as i want to know what she does, i felt a little disgusted after hearing it. eventhough i had mine at 16 too. seriously, i don't know why i reacted this way. please help!
2007-08-20 19:08:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can only hope that my daughter feels as comfortable telling me everything when she gets to be that age!
Sure...It can get a little "disgusting"...but isn't it nice to know that she isn't keeping things from you? Isn't it nice to know that she feels comfortable talking to you? When the time comes for her to start thinking about having sex (I know...you REALLY don't want to think about that!!) But, hopefully she'll come to you before she does...and you can talk to her about being responsible...or at least have the opportunity to talk her out of it if she's still too young...but at least you have the kind of relationship that is open...without secrets...and that kind of relationship between a parent and a teenager is RARE!! Would you rather have your daughter come to you and say "Mom...I'm thinking about having sex"....or "Mom...please don't be mad...but I'm pregnant!"
Sounds like you've got a good kid!...Encourage it!
2007-08-20 19:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I coudln't tell my parents that. I'm an adult, and I would still have issues telling my parents about some kiss. However, I understand that some parents and children have that type of relationship. It depends on the kind of the relationship the 2 of you have. Is she getting overstipping her boundaries to where she doens't respect or obey you anymore. Has she always confided in you like this? If you all of a sudden to put an end to the openess, she may not understand why, exactly.
2007-08-20 19:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by florita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. It's cool to see a mom who is concerned about her daughter. A first kiss....well- it comes with growing up. If she is going to be open like this, its a good thing. Even if it disgusts you. I wish I could have been open with my mom (I'm 16 and a half now)
I wasn't very open with her, and I started dating when I was 15. I just broke up with my b/f a little over 2 months ago...mainly b/c we couldn't keep from over stepping boundaries....we didn't go THERE, but we knew we couldn't stay together for fear that one day, we might have.
A big part of our problem was that I didn't feel like I could be open with my mom, and he certainly wasn't open with his mom either (how many 16/17 yr old guys are anyway, lol. Sorry- trying to lighten the mood)
the point is- open communication is a good thing.
Don't let this freak you out- please don't go all protective on your daughter after reading this. But do do this. Do NOT leave them alone for long periods of time (heck, a lot can be done on 20 mins of alone time!)
My mom left us alone for like hours of time, from like 11 till 1 when he would go home. It just wasn't a good thing. She feels guilty about it and we (me and my ex) feel guilty for betraying her trust in us.
Anyway, don't over-do it (let them have breathing room and such), but do what you need to keep them from making the same mistakes we did.
2007-08-20 19:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I am a muslim girl in a country where daughters dont tell anything about their bf to their parents and it created much problems for me.. so please dont react that way and u should understand it is the human nature and u should be happy she is honest to you...
And she is lucky she has such a friendly mother
Love,
2007-08-20 19:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that your daughter feels close enough to share such things, but I can understand why you feel uncomfortable.
My advise is -- Don't close an avenue of communication with your kid.
Isn't it much better that she talks to you, and you have an opportunity to steer her into safe courses that it would be for her to be silent and rebellious and only talk to you after she gets pregnant.
Keep talking, it is better for both of you.
Doc
2007-08-20 19:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you can to be sure she knows all the various risks issues, etc., she needs to know to be in any sort of physical relationship. It is going to happen and be glad she is willing to open up to you, if she is comfortable enough with you to tell you about those things, you have nothing to worry about.
2007-08-20 19:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by MTFD528 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself fortunate. Obviously she doesnt feel she's doing anything wrong if she's able to tell you . Mom, that is a GOOD thing! It's when she STOPS telling you, that you should be concerned.
How else are you able to advise her if you dont know what she's doing?
2007-08-20 19:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers all over the world are envious of that kind of mother/daughter relationship.
Perhaps you're just not ready for your daughter entering this phase in her life...boys, blooming sexuality...all that good stuff.
You're very lucky that she confides in you.
2007-08-20 19:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mika 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she's your daughter and u love her..pretty simple..maybe u don't want her to grow up so fast
2007-08-20 19:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Pain Is Full Of Disease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are raising a little ho. You need to lock her up in her room or something.
2007-08-20 19:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋