ok whats the big deal?

Question

ok whats the big deal on not having sex b4 marriage i mean the only difference is a signed peice of paper just like un married people break up married people can get a divorce...same thing ya i know theres the risk of pregnancy but those are all the cons i can think of

Answer 1

More than the risk of pregnancy...there's a lot of diseases (some fatal!) that you loose the risk of catching if you're monogomous...and marriage, (by no means a way of totally ensuring that)...at least gives you a little more piece of mind.
Let's take religion out of the equation for a moment ...(PLEASE!)...Yes, Jesus spoke of marriage...and had many good things to say about the topic...but was never married himself! ...and I don't think he would use Yahoo to give a sermon....
Marriage, in it's purest sense, is a partnership. It's sharing your lives together...the triumphs as well as the failures. It's having someone to lean on when you need them...and being there for them when they need you. It's the idea of having "someone to come home to"....and, although day-to-day life can sometimes get mundane...it's the willingness of both of you to keep it interesting.
Sex is sex...it's a natural function...people are going to have it with or without a marriage license...but knowing that there is someone there...willing to be with you sexually...is a great thing! Yes, you can live together without a marriage license and have the same kind of relationship...but due to the commitment...the mileage...and the legal ramifications...many married people think a little harder before breaking up. Without that "piece of paper"...all you need to do is pack your bags...with it--you need to get a lawyer!!
Also...sex before marriage is also a way to find out if you're sexually compatable...nobody would buy a car without test driving it first....How would you know if your potential mate will satisfy you (For the rest of your life!) unless you find out first.
Even some of the most religious people I know had sex during their engagement (*Gasp! Before Marriage!!*)
to make sure that they were right for each other.
If you feel that sex before marriage is okay...then go ahead!
If you feel that you should "save" yourself for your wedding night...then do so!!...But don't put yourself above those that don't!...Remember...Jesus also had a lot to say about Judging people too!
Good Luck to you!

Answer 2

I personally see nothing wrong with it (and people preaching on here really annoys me, but this has nothing to do with you directly). Anyway, back to my answer, I think there was a time and place for 'no sex before marriage' (more like it was not openly discussed as it is now, because sex before marriage is not anywhere near a new concept)...in this day and age, it should be an individual's choice, and they should not be judged either way for it. Me personally, I think waiting until marriage would have been a mistake. Sex is very important to me, I can have sex with or without love, have fun with it, enjoy it, and to be with someone for the rest of my life (sexual life at least) who is just plain awful would probably have caused me to be an unfaithful wife. I also think that the whole 'saving ourselves for marriage' thing leads many to get married way too early, before they are mentally, emotionally, fiscally, and physically mature enough to handle a marriage and all the problems that can arise.

However, the one problem I think is people are having sex too young. I lost my virginity too young and wished that I would have waited a few more years. I was lucky in that I didn't get pregnant, but many of my classmates weren't so lucky, thought they were in love with the 'baby daddy', got married right out of high school and divorced by the time they could hit the bar.

Answer 3

Welll...! marriage is not only a piece of paper but it defines your role as husband and wife and the responsibilities which should be shouldered by both partners. Marriage is not only about having sex, it includes a lot more. Simply speaking if your are not having sex before marriage that will add to your life and will make your married life more trustable and beautiful and both partners will have respect for each other. As I see, havig sex before marriage is the main cause of increasing rate of divorce becasue what you should be doing after marriage has been done before and what is supposed to do still remains and at the same time you loose the charm in getting married. After all what Islam, christianity or any other religion advise is having some logic. You need to dig more on this.

Answer 4

Marriage is a covenant before God that you will love, respect and honor this person for the rest of your life. The sexual consummation finalizes the fact that you have become one. It is part of the meaning of marriage.

When people have sexual activity before they make the marriage commitment, they are becoming one with their bodies with out the commitment that is intended in marriage.

Anyone that you have sex with could cause you to become pregnant. Pregnancy and raising children without the life long commitment of a mother and father is a hard job and not fair to the children.

If someone has sex with you, have they also had sex with other people? Because this is the way that STDs are contracted.

Marriage is not just a piece of paper and divorce is not either. Divorce is a very serious and emotional hardship.

Please be certain that you love someone and that he loves you before you consider marriage and sex.

1 Corinthians 13.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. GOD

Answer 5

once you get married you will immediately know the difference inside. It will feel so great you should not cheat yourself out of this experience because you will love it.
Just saying this is my Husband sends a thrill
down your heart that boyfriend just don't do. Believe me I tried all your same lines until two years ago and now am married and it is definitely different for both of us.

It really does complete you. It is not about the paper really. It is about the fact that :
being married: moves you up in life.

Answer 6

Since it's the last book in the series, it's a good bet that Voldemort(and Harry too) are going to die; Harry's fans have a conundrum, we don't want him to die, but at the same time we want to see how it will happen, and who else may go with him(besides Voldemort, who is a given).Oh, and Lilac? You may want to proofread.

Answer 7

If you're already saying marriage is just a signed piece of paper then it's obvious that you're not marriage material.

Answer 8

Certainly the greatest reward of confining sexual fantasies and practices to marriage is to have a conscience free from devastating sexual guilt, disappointment, and regret. I believe that more self-respect is sacrificed at the altar of sexual indulgence than in any other activity in modern America.

Sexual discipline spares people from this kind of pain.

Another great reward is in knowing that you are capable of forming the strongest marriage bond possible with a person who also has not had intercourse with anyone else.

Christian young men and young women should be taught to save themselves for each other...the man for the woman, the woman for the man. This is God's plan for every Christian married couple.

God's ideal is permanent monogamy, one man and one woman for life in Christian marriage (see Matthew 19:4-6).

Couples who have kept their lives free from the complications of sex outside of marriage provide a secure family life for the children of that marriage.

A security built on the uncompromising trust and bond of the parents' marriage earns the respect of their children. Such parents provide excellent role models for their children.

Even if your life is already complicated by the results of undisciplined sexual behavior, there is help for you. If you will invite Jesus Christ into your life today, He will not only forgive you for these sins, He will help you reclaim sexual purity for your life.

You may have to live out some painful consequences of poor decisions made in your past, but Jesus will give you the strength to help you resist sexual temptations in your future. Open your life to Jesus Christ, today and invite Him into your heart.

Answer 9

i personally think se* before marriage is okay, but make sure of the reasons you are doing it, because, it is not just se*, it is giving a part of yourself to somebody, and you may feel devastated and confused later in life, when you realize that there are people walking around who have a piece of you that they do not deserve to have.....also, i do feel guilty that there are other men out there that have a piece of me....and my husband is prevented from having all of me...i am not a prude either, just someone who takes herself seriously and thinks about things too much

Answer 10

I agree totally with Tasha up there. Once you understand the true meaning of matrimony, the sex answer will automatically come to you.