I have had sexual fantasies about girls. but also about guys. I am dating a guy at the moment, when we kiss, i feel nothing. When he holds me, i dont really feel anything either. I have looked at one of my best friends and thought her a lesbian before. when i toled her i was bi, she got mad and shut me out. shes used to itnow but i still have feelings for her which sorta bothers me. I also wonder if there is some kind of way to "test" if i like girls. (like kiss an other girl and see what its like or maybe go out with one.) i dream about kissing girls, i day dream about other girls. I thought i was bi untill i got my first kiss. It was from my bf and it felt like nothing.is this because i dont like guys in general? i am somewhat attracted to him but i didnt feel "the magic". i know it takes time to find out about our sexuality but ive always had a thing for girls. can anyone help me out a tad here? thank you :)
2007-08-20 17:27:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well this is something several people deal with in their life, male and female. You may prefer one gender over the other or you may just be looking for someone that you really care for. The only way to really tell is to find someone you feel a deep connection with ,either male or female, and take the chance. The world is a strange place and we all have to find our place in it, you will find someone that is right for you eventually, for now just do what you feel needs to be done. Take a few steps back and analyze your life and everything in it before making a tough decision, this has always helped me and now I am currently in a extremely loving relationship with my girlfriend who I believe is "the one".
2007-08-20 17:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Devin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi, I don't think anyone here could really tell you. I think you should get to know people and make a lot of friends and not try so hard to figure things out right now. Even if you 'decided' you were one way or the other, that might not be true for you five years from now. So, try not to label or judge yourself. And no, there's no real test, although having fantasies about girls as well as guys is an indicator.
2007-08-20 17:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be your kissing the wrong guy. You wont feel a connection with every guy you meet. Also fantasizing about other girls can be normal. It doesnt need to mean you are Bi-Sexual. Only that you are curious. Ive met many a woman who have had three somes with their man and another girl and they loved it but dont consider themselves bi. Just go with the flow sweety. Stick with only light relationships untill your sure. Your young yet. Enjoy life while you can.
2007-08-20 17:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just learning who you are..when I was younger I was boy crazy but deep down I still looked at girls in an intimate way. When I got my first girl kiss and I know then my life would be different..ever since then I dated nothin but girls...and I never been happier.
You should def kiss a girl..if you feel something different then with a guy..then I would say your a lesbo..but if you don't feel any different then you just might be bi or curious.
Good luck!
2007-08-20 17:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by krys c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're really young, but so am I (I'm 14). I've sometimes thought I was bi, but I definitely like guys, even if I might like girls too. Because we're so young, it could just be the whole "curiosity" thing. If you have a boyfriend currently, try confiding in him. You might break up, but you say you're not enjoying guys anyway. Try it out with girls. You might get your thirst fulfilled and be able to enjoy both guys and girls equally, or you might be immediately driven back to guys. Screw people who'll be judging you. You're not the only teenage girl feeling like this.
2007-08-20 17:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just something you have to figure out over time. There is no 'instant' test to figure this out. And your friend? That perfectly normal ... you guys are young still so It may take time for her to adjust... but also keep in mind it may just the way she was raised. but day dreaming about girls is perfectly normal and in no way actually means your bi/lesbian. They are, like you said, just fantasies. However, sometime later down the road, if you still have those feelings for girls and you meet someone you like, you can try dating and see if you like it.
And your current BF.... is he just Eye candy? You may not feel anything because he's just not for you.... just... cute.
2007-08-20 17:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Purrsona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you could be bi and just favour girls or you could just not have found the right guy or you could be a lesbian. If you really want to find out you could try kissing a girl i suppose but if you feel strongly for your friend you should talk to her about it, if you don't it will fester until it destroys your friendship!
2007-08-20 17:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be you just haven't found the "right" guy yet. A lot of people are always bi curious when they are young. No one can really be sure but yourself
2007-08-20 17:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good if you think it is a problem
there are teen support groups for gay, lesbian and bi. Go to a few meetings and see if it helps you to find out who you are.
2007-08-20 17:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it is fine to like guys and girls at the same time.there is nothing wrong with being bisexual.i am bisexual i don't care what people think about me and you shouldn't either.if u wanna talk in private about kissing a girl,email me at pretty_little_mammaz@yahoo.com and we can chat and maybe i can be the girl.
2007-08-20 17:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by pretty_little_mammaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋