Here are something I am not allowed to do-
No myspace, facebook etc..
No tank tops or anything like that ( not even over a bathing suit)
No calling guys, no having guys call the house. (even my guy friends!!)
No instant messanger. (even if I would only talk to my friends)
My mom doesn't like the idea of me liking boys, and my friend is into boys, and my mom doesn't like that and calls her a big flirt. ( I think its mean, because she doesn't know of any of the guys that I like and she doesn't even know that I flirt, so she doesn't have any right to call my friend that)
She doesn't like me talking on the phone to my friends a lot.
I'm not allowed to have a cell, even if I do need one.
I am not allowed to go the this back to school party with my friends. Parents would be there.
Not allowed to have a cell phone.
No short shorts.
Doesn't like me to watch videos on youtube.
And I am turning 14 soon, so I think I need a little more freedom. Or am I overreacting? please help!
2007-08-20 17:25:03 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh gosh- I feel so bad for you. I agree with your mom on the youtube, short shorts and IM. But, I think that having a cell phone is a great way for parents to stay in touch with their kids. And a parent supervised party seems okay from what you are describing.
Maybe you should ask your Mom at what age you would be allowed to have a phone or go to a parent supervised party.
Know that your Mom loves you in the best way possible. What I mean by that is that she is willing to have you dislike her if it means that you are safer.
2007-08-20 17:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by paint 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is just being a mom, she loves you and she doesn't want you to grow up and she also just doesn't' want to see you get hurt or get pregnant or anything, do i think she's being a little overprotective....yes, just a tad,,,, i think alot of the stuff is fair, like no my space, sexual abusers and very bad people go on there searching for young girls to rape and kidnap...so that's why she worries about that...although she can monitor you on it, talk to her and see if she'll let you have a my space as long as she has your password and she can see what your doing on there...as for no calling guys or them not calling you, i don't' see why not?...there is no harm in talking to boys...i think she is worried about you having a cell phone and running up a big bill, talk to her about getting a tracphone where you pay as you go.....and if parents are gonna be at this party then she should go meet the parents and think about letting you go...no short skirts i can understand,,sends boys the wrong idea.....so, i say your overreacting a little but at the same time it doesn't seem she is giving you much freedom, your gonna grow up sometimes, just have a talk with her and explain you understand she loves you but you know right from wrong and you'd like a chance at proving that...hope it all works out.
2007-08-20 17:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i am a mother and i would say YES your mom is WAY over the line. i mean, geez...you might as well stay home and clean the house...be your own housekeeper...since she doesnt allow you to do ANYTHING at all...i would say talk to your mom, let her know that her being so over protective will lead you to cause problems...Many kids rebel because of strict parents...so let her understand that you are not trying to cause anything, you just want her to let you be a kid and have fun with the friends you have...she is not aware, but you WILL lose your friends because of her behavior...she is keeping you from doing anything and soon people will think that being with you is unacceptable...Your mom probably did some messed up stuff while she was a kid that is why she is like this...i mean, why else would she be so tight in the panty hoes area...lol...but really...You should sit down and talk to her about giving you some space...It would be better if she trusted you and became a friend and a mother...My birth mother and I are very close...while i was growing up, she trusted me and she never kept me from anything...Because she knew I wasnt that dumb to go and break the federal law or something...I mean, my adopted mom pushed me to do what she wanted, and while i was under her care, i rebeled...oh yes i did...i went and got pregnant...not intentionally but it happened...why? because she was too over protective...i needed space, and it let me to go insane...so that is why i know that holding on too tight will cause problems...but while i was with my birth mother, i was oopen and i told her everything...i didnt have to hide anything...i then knew right from wrong because i had someone i could actually talk to and ask for advice...so that is why i know both ways...so i suggest you talk to your mom and help her losen up...because before she knows it you will probaly cause some kinds of trouble and it would because you went insane...so talk to her, thats the only way...
2007-08-20 17:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by ...oh... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK heres how i see it. you should sit down with your mom and calmly talk about what bothers you and why (and don't use the line:all my friends are allowed) your still young some of it is reasonable. i went through this with my mom around the same age now I'm 17 and i have a lot more freedom but I'm glad my mom cared because i see my friends doing stuff like dressing slutty and watching stuff that is just not good and i don't thing its cool anymore i think its stupid and I'm glad my mom was thinking when i wasn't about my future. As young teenagers we tend to think about the now rather than the long term.
2007-08-20 18:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just showing how much she loves you by trying to protect you. When you get a little older (maybe 20's) you will probably thank her. So many young girls are in a big hurry to grow up that they don't take the time to enjoy being a teen.
2007-08-20 17:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by hannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you that you need more freedom, but also your parents being overprotective is a good thing, shows that they care for you. i dont think you're overracting because i know where you're coming from. you're only 14, you may have little privaliges but once you get older, your parents are going to give you more privaliges as you grow up
2007-08-20 17:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents are ur parents. they can raise you however they want. its their rules. yeah i dont agree with my mom and im 15. ive learned to live with it. now i am allowed to wear tanktops and have a myspace(but not pics of me on it but i do neway) i have a cell and instant messenging.
but its ur parents rules what they say goes i guess.
yeah it is harsh but
talk to her
say that u r responsible and stuff
maybe shell be understanding...
2007-08-20 18:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! - she is looking after you and one day you will be thankful for it (although you probably realise that even now).
Don't worry - you'll survive without a cellphone and the rest - we used to!
Best wishes,
Joan.
2007-08-20 17:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no some of it sounds extreme some sounds like good parenting Sorry i'm not more help
2007-08-20 17:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by ingsoc1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way too over-protective,even in my e book. no longer letting you play a interest at school.. Or pass to the mall..... She ought to to boot placed you in a plastic bubble and carry you around with a leash tied to her wrist...
2016-10-08 22:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋