Why can a woman verbally and emotionally abuse her husband for years without consequence,?

Question

yet, if he slaps her, just once, he's in jail?

Note: (to you morons) I am not trying to justify any kind of physical abuse. I just want to know why the selective shutting of eyes? All 3 are crimes.

Answer 1

Because of the gender bias. Men are raised to be all tough...women are raised to be taken care of by the men.......really archaic ideas really.

Answer 2

There's a big difference in slapping someone and being verbal. Besides, most guys don't call the police when their wives are abusive. If a wife physically assaults her husband, she can and will be arrested, if the police are called.

There are a lot of men who verbally and emotionally abuse their wives without consequence. The percentage of women abused in this manner are much higher than for men. I believe the latest polls showed 35 percent for women, 25 for men. So men get away with it more. Men commit more stalking, violent attacks including sexual, verbal, emotional and psychological abuse than women and women usually don't overpower and beat men.

I suggest doing a little research on the subject, it will help you understand.

Answer 3

Because there is no law against making someone feel bad. In fact the first amendment protects people's right to say whatever they like- including things that make husbands feel bad.

If he doesn't like it, he can grow a pair and leave. Likewise if the man is verbally abusing a woman she can leave. Simple as that.

However, there are laws specifically prohibiting the abuse of a spouse, if a woman hits her husband, and he feels like pressing charges, she gets put in jail- or at least should. Our society is a little funny about prosecuting women who abuse their spouses.

The point is that you aren't comparing like things. There is a big difference between physical and emotional abuse. The fact of the matter is that all three are not crimes. Just one.

Answer 4

You are absolutely right, and you poor guys, who are really being the good guys, often get the raw end of the deal.

Men put up with just as much abuse as women do, perhaps even more so.

Women are dramatic by nature however...sometimes they do it for a response, a particular one....and if they don't get it, the drama only increases.

But physical violence of any kind is wrong. A slap no matter who does it, is something one does not easily forget. It should never come to physical abuse.

Answer 5

Physical abuse for either side is against the law. Verbal and emotional abuse is not. A man does not have to put up with verbal or emotional abuse. He can handle it not by physical abuse but by the physical act of walking out the door.

Did you just call me a moron? Good bye.

Answer 6

First of all, why would a man put up with the verbal and emotional abuse? Does he like it?! If not, he could leave. No one needs to put up with that if they chose not to. As far as physical abuse, no one needs to put up with that either. Yes you are right, a man would go to jail for physical abuse, but a woman could too. Men put up with the abuse because they are afraid of what society thinks. But that has changed.

Answer 7

Because the right to swing your fist stops where the other persons nose begins. The only verbal crimes I know of are libel & slander. If a person allows themselves to be verbally "abused" over and over again for years til they feel justified in hitting someone, they have a weak personality. They need to not be in a relationship until they figure out why it is they have such a lack of self-esteem & self worth.

Answer 8

Why would he need to slap here when he can just verbally & emotionally abuse her in return? There is never a reason to put hands on anyone. He could have easilly left her before it got too far to deal with.

Answer 9

Physical and psychological abuse are far different. If you compare hurting somebody physically to them hurting your feelings, you need to get your head checked.

There is no reason you should ever want to hurt someone, no matter how badly they have made you feel.

You are free to divorce the woman, you are not bound to her, but hurting her isnt the right way to go about justifying your abuse.

Answer 10

Emotional and verbal abuse are solid grounds for divorce; not so much in the criminal arena. Our society does not consider 'mental' beatings as tangible (readily proved; demonstrated) as physical beatings. It is presumed an adult can act in his/her best interest and leave. It is also true that if the female hits you she too would be arrested. "We teach people how to treat us", If one stays, enduring emotional and/or physical abuse they are conveying the subtle non verbal message to their partner consciously or not, that this behavior is not a 'deal breaker'. Well it is a deal breaker as all persons deserve to be treated with dignity, with respect, verbal/emotional abuse is a spirit killer. and hitting is not a constructive response to this abuse. I hope you find this answer helpful.

Answer 11

I understand where you are coming from.

Why have you endured all these years of abuse? She continues because there are no consequences for her. A physical slap from you justifies every rotten thing she does. Get yourself into counselling for yourself, and once you have pulled yourself together, decide whether she is worth trying marriage counselling with. I can guarantee she will lighten up initially when you go for counselling, but it will all return full force when she sees you are not leaving.