You have a long distance relationship with someone who does all it takes to be with you knowing that you thousands of miles away from them
everything is perfect
all of a sudden they break up (they disappear, stop taking you calls..)
you figure they wanna break up
then they come back to explain why they broke up ad make up a lie of how they got into a huge problem that made them lose their job etc.. and a car accident and that this is enough stress ..
a few month later you figure out they have someone else
do you think the break up was because of the long distance, or something in me, or the fact they met someone better ?
by the way.. after he " explained" why he broke up he stopped talking to me again... then, months later I called to see how he was doing he started yelling and said I WAS GOING TO cheat on him , what made say that ??
2007-08-20 16:37:24 · 18 answers · asked by leave me alone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry Sweetie, but I think your answer is right there in your question. He found someone else. Don't think that you did something horribly wrong, long distance relationships are, at best, difficult. Maybe he was yelling because he was turning the situation around on you. When people cheat they often turn it around and make the other person feel bad for it.
I think you should just leave this guy alone, anyone who would break up with you by just ignoring you is very immature. Take a cue from him & find someone new too.
2007-08-28 03:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are reasons long distance relationships don't work, and it's mostly because of the distance. because of the distance, you can't physically be there, be held, touched, romanced. you can't be an emotional comfort to your partner, warm his life with a smile, a simple touch. you can't bond physically. both sexes need these things to fortify a growing relationship. often, when one partner gets lonely, they seek comfort in the opposite sex. this is most likely what has happened, and why he said you would cheat. because he knows what it's like, and he probably has. well, no, he has. he broke up without telling you, and you found out he was with someone else. it's nothing in you. it's the fact that when you are in a relationship with someone, you want to be there to do all of the things you want to do with your partner. and if you can't be there, outside influences can tempt the strongest of relationships. just admit that it didn't work, carry on, and you will eventually get past this. but I don't think it was you, I really don't. long distance relationships are doomed from the beginning. hope this helps!
2007-08-27 14:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering how you were disregarded and treated by this dude..does it really matter why he broke it off? ...sounds like he did you a favor by acting stupid because now you know he is not the type of person you would want to share you time and space with. Instead of asking why he won't tell you the truth about the break up..ask yourself what did I learn from this relationship so i wont make the same mistake in the next...
2007-08-28 18:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy can't face telling you the truth...that he can't handle the long distance relationship, and really wants someone else....but he also doesn't want to hurt you...so he covers up, and tells you what you want to hear (or he thinks you do) and hopes you will buy the story.
He yelled because he couldn't face you...and wants you to be the one to blame.
You need to just drop this guy....he can't really tell you the truth, but doesn't expect you to keep calling him. You need to move on, painful as it is....and find some new friends and new interests. Why did you call him?
No one is to blame...long distance relationships can't go on forever...it wasn't working...that is all you need to accept.
A lot of guys will cover up the real reason...they can't face telling you...but this is obvious! You deserve better!
2007-08-28 22:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He yelled at you that you were going to cheat on him because he's acquainted with the whole cheating scene and it's a lot of fun. So why WOULDN'T you do it?
Long distance relationships don't work so don't blame yourself for something that is doomed from the start. He's not blaming himself, that's for sure, so why should you?
There'll always be someone better - 'better' meaning 'in the flesh', 'present', actually 'standing in front of me!' so just move on with your life..
2007-08-26 12:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with you! He keeps you around for a just in case scenario. He also sounds a little crazy. I know this is hard to hear ,and do but move on. Do what ever it takes to do that!He is a real player,think about it.... he is involved with other women and he has you emotionally tied up as well. Find someone else bag him you're worth it!!!
2007-08-20 23:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is either:
1. grossly immature
2. Insane
3. a control freak OR
4. a pain old nut job
His insanity is NOT a reflection of you...not being good enough or not as good as someone else. It is a reflection of his insanity.
What I would advise you to look at ... why have you chosen to get involved with someone so nutty? OR why are you still worried about someone so obviously nutty?
Work on your self-esteem.. girlfriend!
2007-08-20 23:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make what he is doing one way or the other or at the same time??? How is it making you feel? You know in your heart what you need to do, it's just not a pleasant choice. So take care of you, and don't worry about him, at all. btw what I have learned is that if my man is accusing me of cheating, it's because he is.
Blessed Be
2007-08-26 18:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As women, we always want to understand why the relationship fell apart. We want to beat ourselves up over what we did wrong.
Trust me. You'll be better off if you just tell yourself that you had a relationship, and now you don't.
Don't try to analyze what happened. It DID happen. It's over. It's in the past. Clearly, he wasn't the guy for you, or you'd still be IN the relationship.
2007-08-20 23:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you lost me in your last paragraph... I think it was the long distance relationship, along with him finding someone new. It's only obvious. Just stop calling him & move on with your life. Their are plenty of good fish in the sea!
2007-08-20 23:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋