Because I am not at his level in life, he disrespects me and scolds me a lot. I don't know how to handle this, because when we were kids we use to get into arguments and fights over certain things.
Not that we are in our 30s, we still get into arguments and I don't want it to continue like this. But I feel that as long as I am not up to his level in life (married with a steady job/career) then he is going to continue to disrespect, ignore, argue with me.
2007-08-20 16:27:25 · 11 answers · asked by Harry Balsac 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you are trying to live to his standards, you need to re-evaluate yourself, not him. you will always argue with him and you will never " come up to his level" because his life is not yours. You must choose your own life goal and pursue that goal, and do not measure it with his tape measure. If he scolds, don't hear him, if he ignores you, fine, his loss....but don't argue with him because you then have to use his measure and not your own. I would simply say, "sorry you feel that way" if he scolds. if he ignores you, do him the same courtesy, and if he tries to argue, simply say "we just have to agree to disagree on that, and walk away from him" in other words, long past time for both of you to grow up and stop the sibling rivalry.
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2016-10-16 07:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure that you have your own good qualities. we all have different levels in life. as long as you are happy with what you are doing,that is all that matters.is there something missing in his life ,seeing that he is so concerned with the way you are living yours. tell him in a respectful manner that you are concerned about the arguments that you are having, and is there any way that you can both sit down and discuss this in a mature fashion. i hope you can resolve this matter and enjoy being brothers
2007-08-28 07:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by champagne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing you've told us,tell him.Ask him does he dislike you.You'll never get the truth unless you ask him.If he does not give you an answer,it's time to go on with your life.At least you know you tried to make amends.Good luck.
2007-08-20 18:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Impact 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not he doesn't dislike you , probably the very opposite. He is just being a big brother to you. It looks like he wants more for you and wants you to have what he has.
2007-08-24 22:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At age 30, why would you care what your brother thinks of your choices? Are you for real?
2007-08-27 12:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend your time trying to improve your life, reach your goals and pretty soon he will realize that you are a person he can talk to and be proud of. good luck, i know it sounds hard, but try it
2007-08-20 16:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tivogal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk if he hates you for that. There is no answer for you unless you do what he wants and then you may be unhappy. Then you take the chance that he will still feel the same.
2007-08-20 16:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by annslim2 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's totally a love child. poor old guy
2007-08-26 18:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by eleaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a but*wad..why do you care what he thinks?
2007-08-20 16:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋