what is the best way to get out of a fight?

Question

as in a verbal fight, or simply someone is mad at u? anything besides saying sorry, or ignoring them, or somehow getting more mad?
experts only plz

i mean by what to say or do.

when i asked this question, i didnt mean as if im talking to a girl but any friend or cousin or family.

plz focus on if someone is mad at u and doesnt say anything or criticizes u

Answer 1

Begin with the phrase, "There's a lot of merit to what you say, but"

Or,

I agree with a lot of what you've said. However,

Listen to what the person says, let it be obvious you listened, find something in what you've said that you can concede about and concede it. Then proceed carefully, in a thoughtful, calm voice.

Make your statements beginning, 'my thought is, thus and so', as opposed to saying, 'Thus and so IS'.

Or, 'I wonder if such and such might not be a better [answer] [approach]'.

Or, 'That's an excellent thought, but because thus and so, what you've suggested doesn't turn out to be true.' [works great with bosses]

"I'm sorry I gave you the impression I wanted to hear your opinion," sometimes works when a person is uninvitedly violating your personal boundaries, or giving unasked-for advice.

Maintain steady, confident, but unchallenging eye contact.

Maintain a calm, or dead-pan facial expression.

Keep your voice tone slightly deep, rather than shrill.

Keep your volume slightly lower than normal so the person has to listen carefully to understand the words.

Answer 2

What you send, by way of thoughts, you get back. It's an exchange of energy, even if you're both miles apart. Therefore, if you send good thoughts to a person you are in conflict with, his or her next "volley" back (whether in thought or verbally) will likely reflect the nature of what you have been thinking or saying. Does this really work in settling conflicts, though? Yes. On a subconscious level, you can change the situation for the better and watch as it permeates the reality, just by using your thoughts.
This isn't always easy, though, especially if you really REALLY don't like the person you're in conflict with. Still, the Buddhists figured this out ages ago and it has been proven by people from all walks of life time and time again. Try it. No one has to know about it but you. Observe the effects of the experiment. You can also use the chanted phrase, if you want to utilize the principle to it's fullest potential.
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Answer 3

Since everyone is mad already.... dont talk further..

but if you ignore her,,,she is even madder..

my suggestion - write a note and pass to her, stating

I am sorry (if you are wrong), and explain your justification.. final it with 'i hope we don't get mad over this and sit down and discuss how to resolve the problem together when both of us are calmer'.

U need to step back and cool down to do this...it work if you have tolerancy.... but it save the relationship..

Answer 4

Stop yelling and start talking. Do not get insulting or aggressive.

Also stop and think if this "is really worth fighting over". Will it make a difference if one is right or wrong?

I watched two grown men arguing over what tires were better for their motorcycles, it actually came to blows, over an opinion????

Answer 5

it all depends on how people know you. For me, people knew that if i am not talking or i am very quiet i am upset. This is also what i usually do when i am on verbal fight. if somebody is so mad at me, i just walk out!

Answer 6

Most people trying to cause fights are all talk. They really don't want to fight, they just want you to cower. If someone tries to antagonize you just say "If you wanna fight, just take a swing or shut your mouth". When they say something, no matter what it is, walk away. You told them to take a shot or back down so by saying anything, they're the one who backed down.

Answer 7

just tell them that your both going to act like adults and talk it through thats really the only good way get out of a fight like that so just talk things through and be very understanding... if not buy some chocolate and flowers

Answer 8

if the person you're arguing with is not likely to come after you after this verbal fight, go ahead and place yourself on a higher level and walk away. "I'm right, you're wrong, and i don't smart-talk."

Answer 9

Using logic and wit, put them on the defensive. You have to be good with words and have a large repertoire at your disposal AND you have to be reasonably quick to pull this off. There's an old saying, "If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bullsh*t."

Picture it as verbal boxing match and put your gloves on ~

Answer 10

say "Time out." and walk away. Don't return until you can discuss, not argue.