Life changing question?

Question

no..this isn't a life changing question, but it is a question about life changing things.
Has anything ever happened in your past that wasn't your fault that completley changed your life, or the lives of those close to you? How badly do you wish you could change it.

Me, my husband was kicked out of the Navy for something that he did, but not intentionally, he was drugged at a party when he went home for the weekend and it has completely changed our lives, because of that one jerk and the jerks in the Navy (not all guys in the Navy are jerks, just the ones that wouldn't give my husband a chance), our life has been turned upside down and I wish I could go back and INSIST that he not go home to Connecticut.

the_only: we've been through enough crap, and don't need to be chastised for something that we both have been punished for tenfold, something he didn't do. He was with people he trusted and someone betrayed his trust. He was with FRIENDS. If you can't trust your friends when drinking who can you?

kay, I know it happened. That's what sucks, that I could have prevented it from happening by insisting he not go down to CT. I had a bad feeling about it the whole time, and I did nothing, I wanted to be a good girlfriend (we weren't married at that time) and let him go down and have fun with his best friends that he hadn't seen in a long time, now I wish I hadn't.

Answer 1

Sorry to hear about your husband, sounds like there's some major regret there. I've had my share of ups and downs, but even at my darkest moment I choose to believe that everything happens for a reason.
For example, my ex husband nearly killed me. Took me years to get over it and I've never really trusted anyone since. Would I change it, sure. There are years I would love to have back. But I think that experience makes me who I am now. Besides if I changed that one thing, where would I be now. I've moved to the other side of the world and have now met a truly wonderful man who is kind and has shown me that I can believe in love again. So even though this is tough, there is something better on the horizon for you.

Answer 2

regret street is a place u dont wanna go to. avoid it. take the next road called future plan road. its over. these r fairweathered friends. and like me, give up drinking. its not worth the $$ nor hassle. u can still hv fun without it. believe me. its gonna be tough, u will come up with all kinds of not-so-insurmountable problems. so brace it together. at least u r not alone. support each other. and move on. if need be, move to another place, get a maybe even a lower pd job but move. when surroundings r new, the mind work wonders. it changes too. if u dont like the place, move again. its terrible but u need to find that elusive peace. so pl go ahead.
it happened to me - not drunkenness but i took a career change wh was good, the new one sucks, went down n then things got better with another new one and no regrets. it was lesson well learnt. take care and let us know

Answer 3

you cannot blame outside forces for changing who you basically are. Your husband made the choice to go to that party, and he made the choice to drink, albeit he was foolish enough not to know for sure just what he was drinking.
As for wishing you could go back and change a thing, it's a fruitless and frustrating endeavor and you waste your time and energy.
My own life has been one of huge up- heavals and loss, but I choose to continue to look to the future, for where every disaster has occurred, I've learned and used that knowledge to move on and do better. Looking back on my life, the good and the bad (and some was truly horrific) I find I would not change a thing, for I would not be who I am today without those occurrences to mold me and shape me into a person I really like and respect.

Answer 4

It's never quite our fault??? No one put drug in his throat? The intention wasn't there but the fact was!