2007-08-20 15:41:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your 18 year old should seek employment. Why? You have to provide payment for bills. Thus, your child needs to find employment as well so you can receive much needed help. Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace and God Bless.
2007-08-20 15:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, it is not wrong to teach your 18 year old the responsibility of paying their own way. The 18 year old is an adult afterall and wants to be treated as such, so kick in to help pay the bills too! If they continue to live at home in order to go to college full-time, I wouldn't expect as much as they would only be working part-time. However if that is not the case and the 18 year old is going to live at home, they follow the rules of the house and pay their way.
If you don't charge an 18 year old rent and teach responsibility then you are shirking your responsibility as a parent. If they have trouble with the idea of rent, ask where they think they could go and live without paying rent, other than the "cardboard houses" under the bridge. I would think it would get a bit cold there, they wouldn't have a place to plug in their laptop either...
2007-08-20 16:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by every1's friend 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Even if they were going to college, I'd still recommend charging rent. My parents told me they'd need me to pay rent so I moved out----might as well live independently if I was gonna be paying rent either way.
However, I found out later that my parents had been planning on keeping my "rent money" in a savings account and then helping me with the purchase of my first house later on.....! Wish I'd known that before!
2007-08-20 16:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Gracie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. What is this 18 year old doing all day if he/she is not going to school? Working? Hanging out on the couch?
In fact, I've told me two young teenage kids that when they finish school and start working, they will pay rent for at least a year before they move out. I am hoping to be able to take most if not all of that rent each month and put it into savings so they can buy their own home and not waste their money on rent.
2007-08-20 15:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by tak 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not wrong at all! It absolutely teaches them responsibility, and don't fall for the "i'm paying rent now so I can do what I want" attitude either. They still gotta follow the house rules! If they don't like it, they can move out & live with a bunch of crummy roomies for a while, it'll help them appreciate what they had! LOL! Face it! We've all done this as kids! They are stretching their wings! They may need to fall...just a little.
2007-08-20 15:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by jillianszoo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if the child has an income then there's nothing wrong with asking them for rent (or board). They would have to pay if they were anywhere else, and providing there's no hardship, it is a good life lesson - you should pay your own way through life.
2007-08-20 15:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not, they are 18, old enough to vote, work, go to school, join the military, why shouldn't they kick in for rent, groceries and utilities?
2007-08-20 15:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not wrong. My mother had that rule. If you are in college then you don't have to pay rent. If you are not in college then you pay rent.
2007-08-20 15:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would probably charge him/her something. At the very least, insurance for the car.
2007-08-20 16:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE SOUNDS LIKE A VERY GOOD IDEA SINCE SHES NOT GOING TO COLLAGE.SHES GOT TO HAVE SOME SORT OF STABILATIE ,AND KNOW NOTHING IS FREE.
2007-08-20 15:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by so curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋