The other night I had dream that I kissed my friend. We were talking and then all of sudden I got that feeling that I was about to be kissed and then she kissed me. I let her do it and then I kissed her back and in my dream I liked it. I'm bi, but I didn't think I liked her that way, but now I think I do. I'm pretty sure she's straight and she doesn't know that I'm bi, so I don't know if I should tell her about my dream or not. Or tell her how I feel and see how she reacts. I'm afraid that if I tell her about my dream, she might think I was gross or something and not want to hang out with me anymore. I know a lot of people would say that if she's going to act like that, then I probably don't want her as a friend anyway, but I do cause she's really fun to hang out with. I'm really confused. Can someone please help me?
2007-08-20 15:11:29 · 14 answers · asked by inthewhispers 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hey honey.
i wouldnt get to worked up about it. i mean dreams are mostly harmless random.
if you dont think you like her that way then you probably dont. i wouldnt say anything to her about it. i am straight and had a dream i was kissing one of my best guy friends who i dont like that way at all. it was totally harmless. i didnt tell him about it and we are still close.
i hope everything goes well for you and good luck with everything.
2007-08-20 15:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by MissSamanthaAnne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually dreams aren't about the specific activity in them, but they are symbolic of the larger idea. For example if you are locked up somewhere, you may be feeling hemmed in by your circumstances (dead-end job, bad marriage, boring social life). If you are falling, you are probably processing something that leaves you feeling out of control (flying is the flipside and more positive, that you either are freed up from something or feel the need to cut loose). If you are being chased, it usually symbolizes dread of a consequence of some sort, or that you are procrastinating on something that could bite you in the butt for putting it off.
Sex dreams usually boil down to intimacy and closeness issues and it usually doesn't mean that you want to literally have sex with the person in the dream. It usually means that you want to be closer to them emotionally or get to know them on another level....maybe there is something you have been wanting to tell her, or maybe she told you something that put you on a different level of friendship...or maybe it is a trust issue of some sort.
You don't have to follow this as a sign that you are meant to hook up with her, esp if she doesn't know you are bisexual, and most esp if you don't think she would approve of an invitation to get romantic with her. If you did that, and she flipped out then you will likely lose her as a friend.
2007-08-20 22:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny I was in the same situation but in the opposite role. I like a friend (who's also a girl) for quite some time and one morning after a sleepover at her place she told me she had a dream. In her dream, I told her I liked her and tried to make advances on her.. (p/s: she doesn't know my orientation) she said she's grossed out by her dream and I just pretended it's funny and laugh it off.. (while inside I was scared like SH*T!)
i think this is the weirdest thing that has ever happened to me.
2007-08-20 22:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by PoloTee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dream? you are this worked up over a dream? Hunny if I dreamed I had a cowboy on my back that wouldn't make me silver. Besides I don't like all of that bi stuff anyway. Pick one, yes or no, you are or you are not, this well i might be gets old.
2007-08-26 23:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do , is come out to her, tell her you are bisexual, but dont tell her, in a way that she thinks you are hitting on her, but say it on a friendly way, to show her how much you trust her, that way you will be able to see her reactions, and who knows she might even tell you a secret like that if she has any :)
I did the same with a friend who it hought was straight and in the end it happened he was gay but was afraid of telling it. And even if she is not that should strenghten up the friendship between you two and who knows maybe you could even tell her slowly how you feel about her :) Keep me posted.
2007-08-20 22:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by sabin_f5 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should be more subtle about it when you talk to her. just telling her straight up that you've had this dream about kissing her might weird her out. maybe you could bring up the topic of bisexuality in a conversation and see how you reacts. then you'd probably know if she'd be open to the idea of kissing you for real.
2007-08-20 22:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't know if that dream is true take it from me Im 9 and let me tell you that your dream is not what you think so if you still believing it then your dream is far to off unless you think you are gay.
2007-08-28 21:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, jus tell her the dream, and then if she responds negitivly say ;isent that totally weird!; act like ur grossed out about it too. but if she acts positive like then tell her that ur bi.
peace&love
2007-08-20 22:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i often had dreams of people I knew, people that were exclusively friend material, and then directly after the dream, i felt i was very attracted to them,...for me it always wears off, unless I was attracted to them prior to the dream.
2007-08-25 03:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just a dream. relaz. be careful you don't ruin a friendship over a dream.
You can, at some time, mention same sex intimacy and see her reaction. her response will be your guide as to what to do.
2007-08-28 04:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋