my wife went out of town, and I asked my 2 step children to help put the food away that I went the store the day before. My step children called there mom in private to tell on me. My wife then called me to tell me that she was upset with me, and that I was a bad father and a worse step-father.
2007-08-20 14:24:22 · 17 answers · asked by jefferyjspencer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as soon as my wife called she asked why cant my daughter help. my daughter and my self went to the store and shopped. why is it so bad for the man of the house to ask any of his children to help with the food that his and hers hard worked provided?
2007-08-20 14:40:37 · update #1
It seems like you may left some things out. While I have to admit your wife does seem to have some issues, as long as you are both willing to communicate any issues in your relationship can be resolved. I will keep you guys in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-08-20 14:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what happens when you don't set realistic expectations for interactions with step children. Her reaction to their call should have been "And?" At anyrate, either there's something you left out of this story or she's nuts. But, the thing is, you've made a commitment and at minimum you need to try to get counseling or help before ending it.
I don't get why people are so ready to jump ship on marriage. It's a sacred commitment not a high school dating relationship.
2007-08-20 14:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by curvykim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give her time to calm down because your step children told her something that really made her mad. When she gets back, sit down and talk about what the step children told her and what really happened. But also you have to remember that the step children may not be very cooperative when it comes to their mom being married to a man that is not their father. It happens a lot in these situations and just takes time to build trust and love. But have a talk and get everything straightened out.
2007-08-20 14:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Hope88 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you asked the children to put groceries away? Damn dude buck up and put the pants back on, seems you lost them to the wife. If you can't tell the kids what to do then yes it is over. Not saying be a jerk to them but you need some authority if she says you have none you will not be happy there.
2007-08-20 14:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I hope your marriage isn't over after one incident like that! You asked your step kids to "help"...I assume that means you were also putting the food away? And they eat with you at your house? I really don't see anything wrong with that. Does your wife spoil these kids and never make them do any chores? When your wife gets home you need to have a talk. If she left her kids with you, you were in charge. If you weren't in charge, then who was??? It cannot be the kids. That's not allowed. Adults need to be in charge of kids. Your wife was wrong.
2007-08-20 14:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They called their mom to tell on you because you asked them to help you put the groceries away? And you're wife was mad at you? Something in your story isn't making sense.
2007-08-20 14:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG your kidding.. you asked for your children to help and they called mom and she's upset! what kind of woman are you married too.. im happy when my roommate helps me get the bags in the house!!
is it cause you arent their dad that she's upset.. you two are married.. she's away.. your the parent of locale .. what does she expect .. you to call her and say .. 'honey could you ask your kids to give me a had with putting some groceries away' i mean its like responsible to ask the kids to help more so if they are teens and responsible ....
if this is your relationship you mise well move on.. sounds like she doesnt respect you and surely doesnt trust you with the kids!
2007-08-20 14:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her and see what the kids told her. You did nothing wrong. When she has told you her side confront the kids about what they did and what they should have done.
I don't think this marriage is over as long as you and your wife can agree to stick together. If she continually takes the kid's side before listening to you, then you have a big problem.
2007-08-20 14:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have your hands full! There is no reason why your kids couldnt put the groceries away when you brought them home. I expect my kids to do it. If the little wife is going to let the kids rule the house, let her raise them. You deserve more respect! It sounds like your a good dad to me.
2007-08-20 14:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's your turn to go out of town for a break...but first why don't you cool it both on the shopping for everyone else and on telling hers kids what to do. Lighten up. Get some friends. Find out where that fun guy you used to be is hiding and go be him for awhile. Oh, and while you're at it, take your balls back out of her handbag.
2007-08-20 14:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by Thoughtful 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋