We have been separated for quite a while but were still communicating daily. I begged her to make her mind up to either come back or end it. It was looking pretty good for a little while but the same old issues kept coming back into play and we started argueing again. End result, she packed up and moved away; I guess ending it. I still love her with all my heart and she definately has issues within herself. I just can't, or having a really hard time with it. I miss her and wish things could had got straightened out. My question is: How is the best way to handle this? I'm am so sad and can't keep my mind off her. Can anyone give me any advice to help through this? Thanks for taking the time to read this.
2007-08-20 14:15:57 · 10 answers · asked by Keeper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you touched on a key fact when you stated she had issues within herself she had to deal with. She has to do that herself if its truly causing turmoil in your relationship. It hurts when you lose someone you love and everyone has gone thru it but believe me when I say it gets better.
If you're going for a divorce try to make it as painless as possible and if at all feasible try to agree on what you want in your divorce before visiting a lawyer.
Good luck.
2007-08-20 14:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lethal Dose Of American Hatred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea well I would say communication is the best key but you guys are separated at this point. I would just say give her some time to think about the relationship because some times you think the grass is greener on the other side but it is not. Sometimes you need time to think about what you really have, verses what you don't have. Take time for yourself at this point and give the Mrs. a little much needed space. Good luck and hold your head up!
2007-08-20 21:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, what a shame. If it can't be worked out-what can you do? What a mess but you can stay married - miserable and very loney like me....I wish I could turn my marriage around too as I love my husband but realize that I cannot change anyone - only myself. I don't think we'll ever get divorced but its also hard to think that our marriage is just going keep going up and down because no one wants to make a change. maybe your the lucky one-you still have a chance to have some peace in your life....you can choose it. Put one foot in front of the other-keep yourself busy and choose to be happy with your life. good luck to you
2007-08-20 21:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by joni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try some therapy. A good idea, if it's logistically feasible, is to leave your current location and move to a different city. That's the perfect way to get a "fresh start." Or, at least move to a different apartment/house, or redecorate your current space. Focus on yourself (and your kids, if you have any) and use your time in a constructive manner (volunteer at a local hospital, write that novel, learn French). Good luck, you'll get through this.
2007-08-20 21:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best way to handle it is talk therapy. Sometimes the best way to get closure is to dissect what went wrong with a neutral party, perhaps they can help you understand and make better choices in the future. It sounds like she is moving on with her life. Now you must give yourself time and permission to feel sad and grieve the end of your marriage, learn from mistakes, and move on with your own life. I'm sorry you're going through this.
2007-08-20 21:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to take awhile to deal with this.
Have minimal communication with her and keep yourself busy.
Go out with friends for lunch, dinner footy match etc.
If this doesnt help then maybe you could see a counsellor..just to see how you can deal with this.
Dont blame yourself, you gave her a choice and she chose what she wanted.
All the best
2007-08-20 21:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK I am in a crazy situation also. It OK, God says this to shall pass. Be patient and pray for stregnth, because in times like these we need to let go and let God. You can't change anybody!
2007-08-20 21:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by mariaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over this in short time. Start dating now and you will be good as new.
2007-08-20 21:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do but give it time. Time heals everything. Good luck.
2007-08-20 21:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone can advise when noone knows what the problem is.
Why did she leave?
2007-08-20 21:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋