What is the point of being obessesive?

Question

My boyfriend is mad and not speaking to me and I've called him several times but he always hangs up on me. I've also driven by his house a few time just so I can see if I can see him through the window or outside. I also went by the school after he got out of cross country practice earlier but he acting like he didn't see me. My sister says I'm acting like an obessed idiot but I don't think so. I jsut wanted to know what do you guys think is the point of obessision?

Answer 1

Really understand that obessesion is a part of being human, we will all obesses from time to time, which basically is what happens when we put a want infront of our needs, or a need infront of our preceved survival. Its natural when this happens that the mind whats to satisfy the want so that it can get to the good business of taking care of the basic needs, or satisfy the need so it can get to the good business of surviving. With that said, thats exactly what your doing. You have a NEED to belong, its inherted in all of us, but you WANT him to satisfy that. So your stuck with him as the only way to satisfy your need to belong, sorry until you rearrange your perception, you our caught in the catch-22 of obession. But realize to that obession is a healthy thing to, that in the right siutation it serves us well, helps alot if were stuck out in the desert to obesse about water, thats the natural application of this human ability, but as far as obessing about the want of him, trust me theres plenty of watering holes out here, which is why he is a want, and not a need. Now if he was the only man on earth, you'd be warranted in your behavior, see how it works, because part of you is treating it like thats already true ;-)