2007-08-20 14:12:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That depends on the dynamics of the situation. She is what you call bi-curios. Many times women will fantasize but when they actually do it the fantasy is far from what they expected. Others will love it. For example I arranged for two ladies to have their first woman on woman experience. One loved it and had many others after that. The other was very troubled by the experience. It took a few months before she reconciled her experience and felt at ease with herself again. She obviously never did it again.
Key concerns.
Potential jealousy by you and her.
Whether the reality will be half as interesting or possibly better than the fantasy.
Keeping you involved at all times.
You being ok with it.
It's easy for the boundries of a monogomus relationship to break down if there is sex even if it's not with a guy happening outside the relationship. If your not present and involved at least as a watcher, preferably fully involved then it would be easy for her to feel freed from such constraints.
You need to be right with it in your head. Most guys fantasize about having two women in their bed or at least watching two women get it on. You might not be "most" guys. Nothing wrong with you if you'd feel wierded out by the experience. Just be honest and open with her if you are.
Then there's the potential jealousy issues.
To test all four of the above do a little window shopping. Even if you have a lady picked out for her first, look at some women. Maybe friends of y'all, maybe just women you see sitting around. Talk about what if she were the one. See if it brings up any jealousy issues. If it excites both of you. If your both ok with the idea. If all is a go get a little deeper into the topic and progress slowly until you hit a point where something isn't ok or you actually go through with the fantasy.
Hope this helps you a bit.
2007-08-20 16:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a choice that you have to be willing to agree upon.
No matter how you look at it, it is considered cheating whether you are with her when she does it. I've been aware of this happening before and the wife started seeing women when her husband wasn't there and then she left him for another woman. This is a dreadful boundary that you are about to cross, let alone breaking wedding vows.
2007-08-20 21:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexuality is more common and natural among women. My wife was lesbian for many years. And I have known many bisexual women. If you give her the go ahead on this you need to be a part of it as a threesome. Would you like her to experiment with another man?
2007-08-20 22:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by phil8656 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol that's pretty funny. if you're not being serious.
but just ask if you owuld be able to join in. expand your sexual horizons.
"ethically" spekaing. it's a crime to commit adultery. and your wife would have been burned at the stake for speaking such blasphemis thoughts
at least she's honest with ya
edit: we are in a new age. i say do whatever the hell you want to do. but just don't try anything stupid that would cause your relationship to go bad
2007-08-20 22:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the two of you. I would say "no," that would only cause confusion and jealousy and insecurity.
The marriage bed is sacred, and when you got married and you both pledged your life to each other - you should have meant it: "forsaking all others"
2007-08-20 21:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, no!! It is a violation of your marriage vows and your marriage will NEVER be the same. It will be the beginning of the end of your relationship.
2007-08-20 21:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ruthie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-20 21:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋