I had some small amount of clothes in the washer,I planned to put more clothes in but got so dang stressed out when I recieved a call from my docters office.I decided to get on yahoo answers and destress, but my husband is out of bed from working all night and is make me so p*****!!So he brings out a basket of his work shirts for me to wash , acting like he was going to it.I quickly just turned on the wash to get the small load out of the way,at that time yes I did not care for the bill electric bill, and I washed his clothes .Well he went over and removed the small load from the wash and complained to me about a high bill.I am totally stressed and 6 months pregnant is not easy with him. My blood pressure is creeping up, and my sugar test came back today a bit high.I told my husband and he tells me to blame myself.I have been eating better than ever not unhealthy like, cant calm.No baby sitter and husband wont stay for a little bit at cousins.Ive nowere to go to detress,not even bath!!
2007-08-20 13:43:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most men are big babies, who need a lot of attention. It is best to NOT be on the computer when the husband is home (and awake). Maybe he feels like you prefer the company of YAHOO, rather than his company. I know this sounds silly, but you know that men are made from a different mold than we women are.
2007-08-20 13:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is intentionally waiting until midnight to do laundry at the last minute, that is his lack of planning.
You need to put together some sort of schedule for various things... like washing on Monday, Wednesday & Friday.
You need to start copping an attitude with this twit and get him under control and working WITH you instead of pitching kiddie fits when he doesn't get his way. You are not there to take abuse and you have no help other than him... and he hasn't been any help.
You may not realize it, but you really do have all the cards. Tell him that if he doesn't treat you right, you will leave and take the kids and have the state bill him for child support. He can bloody well see his kids under supervision after that.
I would suggest taking a part-time job just to get out of there and decompress a little. Build your resume a little. Build your own bank account.
Every woman needs a little emergency money tucked away. You would be surprised at how empowering a few $50s tucked in an old tampon box in the back of a closet can be. You need to be able to haul out of there and go home to mommy if he gets any more abusive. Don't wait until he starts hitting.
2007-08-20 14:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a real pain in the a ss. Actually he sounds like my own husband. He sounds like the kind of man that is controlling, maybe not you but everything around you and him. It also sounds like he takes you very much for granted. After all of that being said there is one of two things you can do. You can either kick him to the curb, which doesn't sound like an option for you right now since your pregnant and all. The other option is you can try and have a serious talk with him w/o arguing. Tell him how upset he makes you and how tired of it that you are. This works now and then for me, for short periods of time then I have to do it agian every now and then because they are men and have a small attention span. Remember though, if you are yelling or irate he will not listen to a word you are saying. Good luck with your situation and I hope it helped a little. Theres not much you can do to change a man like that and it never is at a happy medium you either love him or you hate his guts. This is just something you have to live with or decide not to.
2007-08-20 14:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by julia b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to tell him again that he is contributing to your stress level and that you need him to help out a little more around the house and stuff. Regardless of who wants to lay blame where, you have an unborn child to think about (you both do) and your blood pressure and stress level directly affect the baby, and can hurt that little child growing inside you. That should be both you and your husbands main concern. And then you need to be the second, I don't think he would e able to handle it if anything happens to you.
You don't need to run away, and you don't need him to go stay a his cousins, y'all need to figure out a way to fix the problems you are having!
And, your bill is going to be high, you are about to have a baby and they make lots of messes! Tell him to get over that now!
2007-08-20 14:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that.But as a guy i can tell u ur husband is also stressed either from work .his job must be tiring .once he comes home u guys need to spend some time together. have him relaxed. make good food for him.i know u are pregnant but f u cook gud its good for him.when he yells dont yell back.But tell him later that he was very rude.He will understand.do laundry other laundry when he is not home turn of lighhts and show him that u care for electricity bill.And have him do something in return.Well 3 months to go and they are crucial. SO before anything else Ur kids are priority.Take care of them and ur self Husband comes after make him understand.
2007-08-20 13:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by sanJose_Guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband seems to think that things are the way they were before you got pregnant. he may not see it as him stressing you out. if you need to take a destress time go for a walk. he could be stressing out about the baby as well. just let it go as much as you can and if you need to get away seriously walk. that helps with the stress and lowering the blood pressure.
2007-08-20 13:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you have a car? or access to mass transit? cause you need to just leave for an afternoon once in awhile. you can't have all that stress on you while you are pregnant, it isn't good for you or the baby. you can't be trapped in the house with him and no support or help. seriously. just go somewhere where you can have peace and quiet for a few hours. if you don't have money, just even hit the public library or go to a starbucks even you can just get a cup of decaf and kick your shoes off and relax. you have to for the sake of your baby. good luck and take care of yourself first!!
2007-08-20 13:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by phlygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to friends, family is there anyone who can watch the kids while you go out for a walk? Maybe you need to decide do you want a divorce or do you want help. Maybe you need to talk to your doctor to get some medication and then get some other help.
2007-08-20 13:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jules 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need some counseling before the baby comes.
2007-08-20 13:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anastasia Beaverhousen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to shut his dam trap and that your pregnant. Sorry but he seems like an a$$ if you dont check him on his behavior ir WILL continue
2007-08-20 13:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by myownsecretarydotcom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋