ok so u meet someone that has been treated like crap just like you have and time flies cause the both of you are now together and married. but then not even a yr to the anniversary. it starts to fall apart because he kinda sorta cheated with a texting a gurl. why is it that they look for sumone when they have all they asked for right infront of them? why?
2007-08-20 13:33:55 · 23 answers · asked by Idalia G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats a sh!t excuse for a man thats why.
2007-08-20 13:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is texting a girl and its something that makes you uncomfortable, then, yes, it is cheating. You are his wife and he needs to make you feels secure and obviously texting some other girl isn't doing that. You both need to talk about this and come to an agreement about what you feel comfortable with and waht you don't. It sounds as if you two may have met, kind of came together becasue you had both been hurt and possibly was there as a rebound for each other. It doesn't mean it can't work out, just that the initial draw to each other may have been that you had that in common and now that is gone. You have to sit down and talk about things and really work on it together. You can't work on things as people say 50/50 When oyu are in a relationship that is going to work you both have to give 100%. Good luck
2007-08-20 20:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't of gotten married until you knew each other well and trusted each other on what ever each decide to do. How do you know about the texting? Can you be sure he is cheating or you assume because he is texting he is cheating? We all need friends and when marriage is priority is hard to keep old friend around so finding new ones is always an option. Doesn't mean we would end up sleeping with someone else. Trust is the key, not saying to let your guard down. GOOD LUCK......
2007-08-20 20:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If and when the answer to that mystery is discovered I'd want a patent on it as every woman, man and child would want it and a person could become an instant millionaire. But aside from jesting people are indeed strange creatures and as such often do not realize how good they have it and are swayed at times by a bit of attention outside of the home. Foolish people but at the time it is happening they truly believe they are harming no-one majority of the time.
2007-08-20 20:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that is a good question. I had that happen 3 times and then after they have the other person they want you back. well then its too late. you Know it made me stronger. I know have a great relationship for 4 years now and we plan to marry, my third time. this is the right man for me.it was trail an error but we have never been apart from eachother exept four night in 4 years. you know I just dont think this guy is the right one for you. a person shouldnt be treated like crap to begin with. we have respect for each other, we never go to bed angry at each other and we meet in the middle. we love , laugh and even get angry at each other but the thing is we have never wanted any one else.
he dosnt have any respect for you other wise he woulndt have text another women who he is actracted to and wants. you need to move on and find someone who will treat you like the women your suppost to be. love, be yourbest friend and no matter what be there for you and you for them no matter what flaws you both have, no one is perfect. you have to be able to trust that person too and there is no more here. I was married twice before and they both left me for another women. so I know what your going through if you need to talk let me know.
good luck.
2007-08-20 20:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by six_blueangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two issues.
New love is fresh and exciting.
The chase is half of the fun.
You say that he kinda sorta cheated. You both have to be clear on this. Either he did or he did not.
If he did, you decide if you want to continue the relationship or not.
If you still want things to workout between you two, then make sure that he has to chase you and when you let him catch you, make it worth both your whiles. Put some effort into what happens between the sheets, or on top of them or even outside the bedroom. Just do what you can to make things fresh and change things up every now and then.
2007-08-20 20:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm, so both of you have been in a crapy relationship before, then the two of you found each other and thing looking good between the two and then came marriage. I am taken a guess its about 5 to 7 months into your marriage he is texting some female.
there are few question of concern but I will agree with you that one. My opinion, because some individual don't know what in the heck they want! It's foolish for them to look else where, when they have it right in front of them. have you talk to him about this texting with this other female? that is the only you can come up with a solution to any problem. good luck!
2007-08-20 21:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once married to a guy like the one you are married to now. It lasted two years. When things began to fall apart his family starting talking. If your guy is the same type. They will only stay with one girl for a while then move on to the next. My ex told me he had been married once and had two children. WRONG!! I got a lawyer and did research on him he has been married seven times that we could find. We divorced six years ago last I heard he has married two more times. See what you can find out about your husband. Don't let him keep hurting you. See if he will go to counseling maybe this will get to the root of his problems. If he does not choose to go. Then the decision is yours.
2007-08-20 20:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that!! My husband cheated only after one year of marriage AND got her pregnant, nice heh?? Not sure why men cheat, I mean, why get married if he still has wild oats to sow?? Don't waste your time with a cheating hubby, if there is no trust, there can be no love, sorry, but that's a fact!! I hope you don't have children, so it can be an easier, clean break from the cheatin b*stard, good luck!!!
2007-08-20 20:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry... that sucks!
I am currently single...
and i am NOT looking for someone, yet.
I hope to start looking in December.
I would start by doing so... by leaving everything in december.. to travel... by myself.
Back pack to Australia and S. Asia.
To find someone?
No.. not in particular... but to find myself first!
I (like yourself) have been SCORNED.
And i think what might be the best medicine is to get away and just relax!
Don't depend on those who are around you.
But to let yourself change (dramatically/forcefully)
by leaving your typical environment.
YOu know you'll be back... but it will be a long time still!
By then... not being surrounded by those who you are USE to... people and or habits... you might discover your inner beauty... and perhaps the beauty of a potential soul mate?
Someone whom has travelled the same path as you did.
Someone whom has made the same sacrifice as you are (while travelling and not dating)
Someone whom is truly ready to settle down and is ready to reciprocate properly in a Real Relationship.
good luck
W
2007-08-20 20:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by movngfwd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the grass always seems greener on the other side. He obviously didn't care that you were hurt by a cheating ex, because all he cares about are his feelings. Dump him and look for someone who cares about your feelings, not just someone who has experienced the same problems.
2007-08-20 20:42:40 · answer #11 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋