My husband and I got into a big fight about his sick sexual fantasies that is way against being married. I through him in jail for hitting me and dragging me on the floor. And he is acting like I made everything up even though the cops have evidence and pictures. He is staying somewhere else. He says he is so mad at me and he is talking to me like, i made it up, when I didn't and he keeps denying it. I told him I was moving and he pleaded not to because we have 2 girls. Thats what is hard. He saying we should get back together one day. I can't see out of the box. What would you do? Love makes you stupid. He called and threatened me to drop the charges. Should I get a restraining order. I do not want to because of the kids. He says he loves me.
2007-08-20 13:09:17 · 6 answers · asked by mariaaa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, I just read your answer about falling in love and being in love. You clearly seem to know the difference--in fact I just voted yours the best answer!
Now, you have a problem, this is obvious and I'm sorry to say, but you need not only a restraining order, but unless he gets the help that he needs, you won't ever be safe or be able to make it work. Take one thing at a time--one day at a time. He needs to know that before he even can consider coming back to you and his family, he needs to take care of himself and if he won't agree to that, well, then, you have to move on. This is tough, but being 'soft' isn't going to fix your problem. Good luck.
2007-08-20 13:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should get a restraining order for the safety of you and the kids. If your thinking of your kids you will, he does not love you and it will get worse and worse. Dont drop the charges because if something else happens it wont look good that your dropping charges. Leave him
2007-08-20 20:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Savannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a marriage counselor to see if you need to talk to an attorney. You may need to divorce him. Don't move out of the house, get a restraining order against him.
TMD
2007-08-20 20:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Doctor ™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but seriously, see a therapist. Your problem is a lot bigger than a simple answer can provide. Especially if children are involved, get help for yourself so that you can make the best life possible for them.
2007-08-20 20:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all say they "love" you. He doesn't love you when he hurts you like that. You know that and everyone that answers on here is going to tell you that too. Do yourself and those kids a favor and let go of this horrible relationship.
2007-08-20 20:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physical abuse is not love. You need to think of the safety of not only yourself, but your children.
2007-08-20 20:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋