well, my story is i'm 15, i still look at guys and say to myself, oh hes cute or whatever but its not like when i see a girl. and that brought me to realize that i'm more attracted to girls than guys. but i have been noticing girls more than guys since i was about 9.. like saying oh shes pretty to myself lol so, i know im not straight. but im not sure when would be a good time to come out. i have been waiting for my parents to give the "its okay to be gay speech" since i was 12 and it has yet to happen. but im kind of scared to tell my mom because though she's not exactly fond of the lesbian/gay community. i think my father might be okay with it though... you never know though, he could flip worse than my mom. well my real questions are when is a good time to come out (and please dont just say whenever youre comfortable because id be fine doing it at any time... i just want to do it when it will leave the least damage.) and how could i go about telling my friends?
2007-08-20 12:55:54 · 10 answers · asked by Vici 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a lesbian. sometimes i think i might be bi. anyways, you could always say to your parents, "What are your views on gays?" or, if you have siblings, "If one of us turned out to be gay, what would you do?" and see what happens.
2007-08-20 13:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by fanny bandits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you will know when the time is right...I mean really let's say you were completely straight ....would you be telling your parents I'm straight, how about your friends? same deal why is it that when a person differs from the "accepted" sexual orientation he/she must come out and say it? no, listen if your parents ask you then you're honest and say what ever it is that you feel, if and when your friends ask you same thing... people are going to love you for who you are remember that always and if they love you they'll accept you. I hope this helps! Good Luck! :)
2007-08-20 20:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by TC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend waiting until you are out of your parents house before spilling the beans, I wouldn't want you to have a home life situation that you couldn't get away from or I wouldn't want you to be forced into counseling to make you straight. I wouldn't recommend telling anyone anything until you finish high school and are a little more self dependent.
2007-08-20 20:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shavon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not have given you the speech because the think it's NOT alright. Maybe they do but are embarrassed to say so. You take you chances. As for telling your friends, invite them to a big party and announce it. You're at the right age for a coming out party.
2007-08-20 20:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by vann_robert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Know...... most people can see that ,, you are different from the average girl and are probably guessing about your gender Idenity anyway,, people arn't as phobic as they use to be , infact if you dont butch it up right away ,people will actually sort of imbrace it , to a certain extent , it isn't your choice who you find atractive , you find what you find But if you don't want to loose your current girl friends , better keep it under wraps ,, because they will be bothered by this , but if you want to be rid of people who don't like you for your Idenity , let them know who you are , they'll leave But , you don't need those fare weather friends anyway.....
2007-08-20 20:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say the best time would be wen you have all the facts straight. wen you no that this is how you are and there is no doubt in your mind that you are like this. You are going through puberty so things might change along the way or they may not. wen you finally no that this is you and you no it to be true go ahead and tell them. but brace yourself b/c dads are pretty rough. but then again you have the daughter affect.
2007-08-20 20:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jasx501 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the most u can do is when u tell them, tell them that u r the same girl they have always known and the only difference is that now theres no secret. If ur friends ditch u then they r not true friends (which they may not ditch you) and u will make ones for who like u for who u r and not ur sexual orienation.
2007-08-20 20:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to wait till your 18 to bring it up to your parents . by then you can get your own place if they get really ugly on you . with friends , realize not all will aplaud you . still , you have a better shot at romance if a few people know . Best of luck .
2007-08-20 21:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does publicity have to do with it? Most well-meaning people are content to live and let live.
Just do what you feel like when you feel like it, and deal with explanations when, and only when, you are obliged to give them. Of course, I'm talking about legal activity here.
2007-08-20 20:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by picador 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
again ..why, why, why ...the world doesn't need to know and they don't really care if your bisexual ... and neither does your mum and dad ...or your friends ..please do your self a favor and save your self a whole lot of sh*t fights ..if your happy don't say nothing to no one ..unless their your sexual partner / lifes partner, or they ask and then its still up to you if you say yes or no
2007-08-20 20:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋