jerk in my classes?

Question

I'm in college. I roomed with a friend spring semester. @ first it was cool, but now i hate him. he treats me like crap, puts me down because I don't see eye-to-eye to him, calls me fat-a$s (he's not exactly skinny either), criticizes every little thing I do, not constructive criticism, but like how I have no clue what I'm doing and will amount to nothing. He's extremely arrogant and talks bad about me, also to other people. Last year we had ONE class together, now we have 3. Beginning and advanced boxing on tues. th, history on Mon. Wed. Fri. that means I have to put up w/ this a$$hole EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK!!! I tried switching out of history, but they're all full! I can't drop this class and love boxing. How do I handle him? Do i just say "hey, if you're gonna put me down, don't say anything to me. I'm tired of hearing it and really don't like you that much." or something like that.

I’m really tired of dealing with him. He lives in an apartment 2 blocks from campus. I’m always hoping he’s going to fail so he won’t be back soon. He always talks about how he was homeless and how his dad used to beat him. NEWS FLASH!!! Lots of people have had this happen. I’m friends with such people. One friend of mine is about the nicest guy I’ve ever met. Please, tell me what to do!!! I don’t want to cause trouble, as I believe he’s the kind of guy who will go out of his way to harm people. In school, he’d draw pics of his dad dying and told therapists he wants to kill him. Etc.

Answer 1

Some people come out of things like that OK and know how to function in life. Some people just live how they were raised. It might be the only way he knows how to communicate with others. This may sound crazy but he might do this to you because he feels comfortable around you, sometime things are weird like that. just tell him you want him to respect you you can't be his friend any more. If he attacks you call 911 and send he behind off.

Good luck!

Remember some turn (-) into +
And some go from (-) the jail

Answer 2

If this persists I would let the instructors know what is going on and I'm sure if it keeps going and becomes a problem they will drop him. As far as confronting him, it sounds like someone you don't really want to mess with. I would have some kind of authority around when you do confront him. I have a feeling from the way that you describe him that he will want to start a fight or something with you.

The best thing I can tell you to do at this point is talk to the instructors as mentioned and a counselor at the school. He has no right to treat you or anyone in that matter the way he is treating you. Your right, having a bad child hood is not an excuse. If anything he should learn from it and use it for good not for the worst.

I wish you the best of luck.

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Answer 3

Sounds like this guy has some serious problems going on, and probably needs some serious counseling. Short of that maybe you could ask him why he's always so obnoxious. Do it sincerely when no one is around to make fun of him with the question. You might manage some meaningful dialog with him . Might be worth a try.

Answer 4

Maybe because of th eissues he went through in his life he tries to express his anger the way people expressed it through him, by criticizing him and talking down to him. I suggest ignoring him, if u don't listen to him or respond to him then he holds no power or provocation over u, then he'll keep it down adn start acting a little bit nicer, then when everything is quiet and calm confront him and then continue to ignore him if it continues. I hate people like that, well not hate but dislike, but you gotta live with them, so don't wory about it.

Answer 5

Ignore him! You don't have to deal with or interact with this jerk. People will get tired of him telling his pitiful stories, in fact I bet a lot of people are already bored with him. He isn't a true friend, you found that out the hard way. Now you have to move on, do not let this guy affect your life, ignore him and hang out with the friends who treat you better and have a more positive attitude.

Answer 6

This guy is driven by fear and embarrassment. Bullies are cowards trying to make up for their imperfections.

As you've been trying to avoid his insults, you've given him more courage.

Don't get upset but take him aside and tell him you're not okay with the way his talking to you.

And if he continues ... tell him its getting boring.

The more he sees that it doesnt have an impact on you, the sooner he'll find someone else to bother.

If he threatens to hurt you, you should report it. He does have violent tendencies.

Good luck. And stay calm.

Answer 7

Ask him what in the world is his problem. id tell him to grow up and find something better to do than to criticize people to make himself feel better.Sounds like a real jerk you are having to deal with.Unfortunatly there will always be someone like that around.

Answer 8

Man, he sounds a little old to be a bully. If he does this to other people, can't you all ignore and isolate him? I know it'd embarrass you with what he says to you, but think about how bad he must feel about himself to act like he is. People don't really look at you and think stuff about you when he says stuff, they're thinking about him and what a bad person he is.

Answer 9

Just withdraw from him and stop associating with him... tell him if he continues to treat you bad you won't like him anymore and he needs to smarten up if he wants people to like him. If he values your company he'll tone it down to keep you around. Make hiim feel left out and wish that he was with you.

Answer 10

I don't know, the next time he says something like that to you throw his dumb *** on the ground and tell him never to say another word to you. You don't have to put up with someone like that.