are you more of a listener or talker and why? do you find any advantage or disadvantage being either one?

Answer 1

Very honestly, I am not a listener, I love to talk, Love to make people listen to me, It is not very hard, Look above messages, All are good listeners, So It is better someone to be talkative and speaker, I guess I am that one, Second part "why" It is because world is full of listeners, Third Part "advantage", important Advantage is you make them believe, People know you, Famous quote of Dante "Even people don't give pity to those, who don't cry"
So make yourself important, Discuss every issue, To be more accurate of whatever you are saying, One has to study as well, It gives you more knowledge, Another best advantage, Philip Kotler famous marketing Guru said "Speak with 1000 people one by one, Last person will be inlove with you, Now look at this side, You speak and you make them listen, They start believing, they recognise you, They love you...Isn't it great, And yeah last part....Disadvantages, Sometimes you don't need to speak, Since you are addicted, One can't help, I know a guy who is very funny, With him I went to see my cousin whose wife died, After funeral thunder storm came, He said to my cousin"she finally made it".....Though hillarious but again! he shouldn't be speaking there....Cheers

Answer 2

There is pay-value in both. However, I find the greatest advantage is developing and practicing good listening skills. To listen well and show serious interest in what others have to say, causes people to feel drawn to me. And, I learn empathy and new ways of thinking about things.

To listen well is to learn a lot, and in the process discover new things to talk about.

'Pretty cool how that works!

Answer 3

I am more of a listener. I'm not sure how it started. I think I'm codependent, or at least leaning that way. The disadvantage is that I take care of others before myself, which creates a situation where I'm always trying to help people and then backing out of it. It makes for some very complicated relationships!

Answer 4

I am a listener because people have always come to me for advice or just to have someone listen to them.When I discovered this site, I was overjoyed simply because I would get to ask the questions.Turns out, I'm so used to listening & giving my thoughts on something that I have answered more than asked.Sometimes I would really like to have someone there for me, which is a disadvantage to being the shoulder for someone.They(the ones who have come to depend on me)seem to have become desensitized to the fact that I have problems of my own & just because I may shed some light for them, that may make it darker for me.They also think I'm well rounded & have my head screwed on straight, that I do the right thing in most cases but in order to uphold that vision, all my little dirty secrets, all my skeletons & demons get locked away.I know, I know-cry me a river.Being that shoulder feels good all in all; I just wish I knew what it felt like to have a shoulder of my own as well...BUT P.S....this site is becoming a haven for me to let some of that stuff out.Thanks for listening to me!!!!! ;-}

Answer 5

As much as I enjoy expressing myself, I also find it fascinating to listen to a person and get a feel for his or her way of viewing the many walks of life and experiences.
Studying our differences and similiarities has always been of interest to me, so when someone is talking with me, I not only listen to their words, but absorb the feeling or attitude behind the words, the body language, the tone of voice (and its differing ranges as the conversation develops), sort of like an experience.
Communication is one of the most valuable and natural gifts we have, even the silent kind, in which one person can listen to another without there being a single word spoken between the two.

Answer 6

I think I am a listener. Sometimes the talker will solve their own problem by just listening to themselves in conversation. Ironically I met my husband by him guessing what was going on with me and me not really talking about my problem. He's a talker but he did hear my "cry for help" and I really didn't say too much... he just knew.

Answer 7

No, one needs to be both.

Just being a passive listener means you just are a follower. You apply yourself less and less. An active listener is one, who is alive to what is being heard and soon applies himself to go ahead and make strides. For some listening is a just a path breaking to a new venture.

Talkers are of numerous types. Some do it just glibly. Some are real intellectual types. Some do it for a good time pass. So what we talk and why is more important. If we have an aim then we should deliver it otherwise, we are just frittering our energy and time away.

Answer 8

I tend to be more of a listener. I believe that a person can absorb alot of knowledge just by listenening. I sat with and cared for a lady who was 101. she passed away just this weekend in my arms. I will truly miss her. anyway...She would just tell me stories about her life and how this country had changed over the years. the stories were amazin. I will also say that You can learn alot about a person by letting them do most of the talking. It makes you a better judge of character too.

Answer 9

I love to listen to peoples stories and give advice...it makes me feel good when I make someone happy by letting them get something out or by offering some advice about a very tricky situation

Answer 10

Yes!! When I listen I feel better about myself after the conversation is over. When I talk too much I feel I say the wrong thing.

So, I like to listen!!!