With all the discussion about Madeleine I find the parents attitude towards their children rather sad. They have 3 kids by IVF then leave them in a creche all day and an apartment alone at night. What about a good old "family" holiday ? Is it a case of professional people who want children but then just find them too much like hard work?
2007-08-20 11:34:07 · 20 answers · asked by lynda p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ps I am a middle class, stay at home mum of 2. Just been on holiday for 19 days and had girls with us 24/7 apart from a couple of occasions when grandparents looked after them. Just find the idea of a creche/holiday club repellant. Could one lot of their group not have babysat each night? Surely your children are your most prized posession?
2007-08-20 12:14:55 · update #1
They lost a child for God's sake, if you cant help find her then shut the fk up
2007-08-20 11:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Their children are trophies. Want their children around when it suits them and their needs. You are right, too much work. It seems more and more we live in a society that have lost the concept of what it is like to truly be parents. Convenient children I call them, when I see parents dropping them here and there. It has always been around, yet it seems more and more prevalent and acceptable in today's age.Then society sits back and questions why children are so unruly, well honestly, who's paying attention and raising them? People like the McCann's is who. Family vacations are for family, if they wanted to go just the 2 of them, clearly they had family and such to watch the little ones. If family couldn't then they could have brought a nanny if they didn't want to have the children with them all the time so the children were at least safe, pretty simple. For all the people flaming you, forget them. I mean honestly if the McCann's would have felt as much compassion for Madeleine as the people do defending them, we wouldn't be discussing this at all.
2007-08-20 13:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by zail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but children are not possessions, I like to call them gifts. I agree that they shouldn't have left them on their own. In my opinion that is a definite no no. I would never leave my children alone especially with the types of people around. I'm extremely fussy with who I leave my children with if I need a babysitter which is very rare as I have them 24/7. I also feel bad for them at the outcome of their foolish judgement. As parents they should have known better but at the same time they couldn't foresee the result of their mistake. I just hope that they have learnt from their mistake and don't repeat it.
2007-08-22 10:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
catalysmic, how on earth can you love young children yet put them in the care of somebody else during the day, every day, even when you are on holiday, and then leave them on their own at night , every night, while you go out eating and drinking and not even bother to check up on them. Thats a weird, if not sick, way to love young children isnt it ?.
To answer the main question. I hope that the professional classes would/will look at the McCanns neglect of there children the same way as anyone else with a youg family would - utter disgust and disdain !
2007-08-20 12:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by 17pdr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about your choice of topic here.
The McCann's clearly love their children. I hope you are't questioning this - that would be unfair -especially with the speculation that she is dead. Very distasteful.
I am sure that the McCanns have felt guilt (and by the looks of things will do forever) for what they did that night - leaving them alone in the apartment. They have to live forever with that - what a cruel thing. I do not believe for one moment that they harmed their daughter, nor that what they did was neglect of any form - it was just stupid. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone says this was a terrible thing to do - it certainly was and the wrong choice obviously given the result.
However...
They are not the first parent to leave their children alone - I remember my mum running down to the local shops for bread and soup while I was ill in bed - or if she had to run down to get milk or something in the morning when dad was working. It didn't make her a bad mum, she just took a risk because it was easier and the shops wasn't far away - she wouldn't be long.
The restaurant given good info on the news and net was not v far away at all. That doesnt mean it was ok - I would not leave my son in a creche abroad - let alone leaving them in the apartment.
I do not think you have the right to judge the McCanns though.
You are stereotyping.
I am a teacher. A professional - I have a child, 2 dogs and 2 cats - we always have time for him and them- and yes if we had a holiday, it would either be a family holiday with him or he would go to my mums if we wanted some intimate time as with our honeymoon and have his own holiday at butlins with his nan.
I could easily stereotype and presume you are a single mum on benefits because of your criticism of 'professionals'. I could say that you are suggesting that only those sponging off the state are entitled to have children because they have more time for their kids! (V untrue as I have more time for him than some parents I know on benefits and home all day - they just get up late and do the cleaning at a slower rate than I do -if at all).
You are presuming that :
A) all professionals are this way
B) The McCanns are bad parents because they made a mistake
Having twins is tough and with another one too, well our son wears me out alone - I'd be run ragged if I had anymore - I will in a few yrs though -it will be tough and there will be days when I want to scream (my parents had 8 of us and both worked). I'm sure they just wanted some outlet in the evening - they should have asked one of their friends to have the children while they went out for dinner - but they didn't -A silly thing that they will have to live with possibly forever. It doesn't mean they found them too much hard work or that they are bad parents.
I'm sure the McCanns being Doctors know all about hard work - the medical business is hard work!!
2007-08-20 12:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mumma wolf 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I aggree with you on this one. I dont think they look like responsible parents at all, if they were going to leave their kids alone - they would have been better not taking them on holiday with them.
2007-08-23 10:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Little Minx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally but they will torture themselves for the rest of their lives so who are we to throw stones, I can't imagine the pain they are going through, if I lost one of my children I would want to die, they have to keep going for the twins, if they kept them with them all day the twins would pick up on the pain and it wouldn't help them, we cannot judge their pain is so real so horrible. they are paying the ultimate price.
2007-08-20 23:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by susan t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is sad. It is sad that two doctors would leave their young children in a hotel room so they could go out for a "well-deserved" nice meal out. They seem to think these kids are a bother. If they wanted to go out to eat with each other, they should have brought along a babysitter that would be responsible. Probably that little Maddie ran out the hotel door looking for her "Mommy." And somebody snatched her.
2007-08-20 11:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Maybe, who knows?
But give em a break.
At the start I was a loud voice against them, but they have stayed the course and deserve respect for that.
I still think there is something fishy going on, but am starting to believe that has more to do with the Portuguese Police than the McCanns.
With time I hope all becomes clear, for them and maybe for us.
2007-08-20 11:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I thought it had all finished with the McCann discussions. I didnt realise they were born by IVF. Terrible parents, but is anyone perfect?
2007-08-20 11:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let them alone. They've made their mistakes and have to live with this for the rest of their days.
They will have feelings of guilt along with regret and remorse, coupled with immense grief for years to come.
Other parents should be sitting up and taking note of the events which have unfolded in this sad episode!
2007-08-20 12:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋