I will be having my first baby very soon and my mom is offering to come stay and help us. She can come and stay about a week the day I come home or a few days later... which is most helpful? I don't know if it is best for my husband and I to have some alone time together with the new baby and sort of figure things out for ourselves or have her here to help answer all our questions. I'm also a little worried about feeling smothered and needing some space after spending a few days in the hospital and the up and downs of my emotions.
Which scenario have you mothers found most helpful?
2007-08-20 09:59:02 · 15 answers · asked by Michelle F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If it is genuine help, then accept all the help you can as soon as you can. Don't shirk your responsibilities off on someone else, but be quite ready to accept help.
Further, the help should be on your terms. Anyone who helps you should understand that you are still in control. Help doesn't mean taking control. It only means assisting the one in control.
2007-08-20 10:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first my Mom came for a couple days while I was in the hospital and cleaned my house really good and visited with me in the hospital and then my hubby and I were on our own for a week or so and that worked well. When we had our son my Mom came and stayed for a lot longer (I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old) and that worked well. So just take into acount the relationship you have with your Mom and which way you think you will be least stressed out. Don't be afraid to make this about you-you will never get the experience back again so make it the best you can for you and your husband and baby. Good luck and Enjoy!
2007-08-20 15:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Laura H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked being alone with my fiance and baby while he was off from work. Once he went back my mom came and that was very helpful. I wish she could have stayed longer than a few days, b/c believe me, you need all the help you can get. Even having people make you meals for once your mom is gone is great too. The first 2-3 weeks are tiring and take ANY help you can get!!!!!
Best of luck :o)
2007-08-20 10:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have preferred to wait a few days. You have some alone time with your baby and the father to relax. Then when you start feeling tired or need a break your mom can help you out for a few days.
2007-08-20 10:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly encourage you to spend time alone with your baby, as much as you can, early in. This is a special bonding time and it will go away so rapidly! Your baby will get bigger so very fast--just take time to appriciate the little miracle in your life.
Grandma can be doting and helpful (like you could stop her), but unless she lives far away I don't see a reason that you should have her move in for a week. Just visiting for an hour or two every few days to help with little things around the house should be enough.
2007-08-20 10:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd go with wait a few days. The first days home, my son still slept most of the time. It took about a week for him to really be out of whack with sleeping and eating.
Also, I assume after a few days your husband will go back to work and you may not want to be alone then.
2007-08-20 12:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by berrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was a world of help when she came up when I had my daughter. She stayed a week and I was so much more sane because she was there. I wouldn't have wanted anyone else helping though. I was so clueless about newborns then, and she showed me so much. Of course, my mother isn't the smothering type. She knows just when to step in and help without being pushy.
2007-08-20 10:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by not too creative 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 23:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally didnt want anyone around when I first gave brith I just wanted to be left alone and relax..and I have a great fianace who was able to take a few days off so I can heal and relax i would sujest to see if your hubby can do the same if he's able to help around and give you a few days that trust me you will NEED! after birth...then have your mom come later..if he's unable to then I would say have her come maybe 3days after ..because you will need help ...but I would give myself a day or two to just let my hormones and emotions wind down...congrat and best of luck!
2007-08-20 10:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Babygirl000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son 3 months ago and without my mom I would have gone crazy. They put me on
percacet and lortab, I was out of it all the time. My man could not stay up with our baby all the time, just remember, you will be on alot of pain meds after and you dont wanna leave your hubby to do all the work, that will just make him grouchy and not in a good mood.
2007-08-20 10:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋