my b/f and me have been having a bad relationship since i cant even remember...he is controlling and i sware bi polar...he makes me feel like crap and blams me when he is stressed...i love him so much i cant leave because i always think about the good and belive we can be happy...i want to leave but i cant...would seeing a counselor honestly help.
2007-08-20 09:29:10 · 9 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, but not a shrink, not yet anyways. You've already become somewhat traumatized from the emotional abuse and there are therapist out there that specialize with all that. The shrink will analyze the facts and treat you with medication, stay away from the medication right now and deal with it just as you are, try contacting a MFT first and they'll connect you with someone that deals directly with cases like yours unless they'll do it themselves. If they think you need a shrink they'll tell you. Right now you just need counseling on how to break away from him. There is support group therapy for females going through the same thing and you all talk about it together. There's also a twelve step program called co-dependency anonymous, it's free.
2007-08-20 09:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by THE FISH 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A counselor will be able to help you sort through your emotions in a healthy way. They can also get you in touch with other resources that you might benefit from.
You are codependent, and yes therapy can help you leave that behind and move towards something healthier for all involved.
2007-08-20 16:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by gefyonx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see a counselor, not only can they help you resolve to end this bad relationship you keep clinging too but they can help you understand why you might have chosen a guy like this in the first place & you can work on a healthier mind and a healthier relationships in the future :)
2007-08-20 16:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by wyatt.rebecca@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes a councelor can help you with this...however you CAN do it alone...i did..and trust me it was VERY VERY simular..not to mention physical, mental, sexual abuse and depresion. it did take me 3 years but finally i just said to mysel fi deserve better..ive given him as many chances as i could and i finally left. and i was sorry for a while because i loved him and was scared to be alone but now 6 months later i am EXTREMELY glad and PROUD of myself. IT is probably going to be the hardest thing youve ever done or gone through...i know it was for me and hell ive been through some crappy things. Just know that as long as you are with him you are unable to be with the pesron who you belong with who will treat you like a queen.
If you would like to talk please feel feel to contact me.
hottwcbabe@yahoo.com
Julie
2007-08-20 16:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jewels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My past relationship was really bad too, and my boyfriend got counseling and left me (I wasn't controlling or anything, we just weren't a good match.) I don't think he would have done it if it weren't for counseling. Go for it!
2007-08-20 16:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've really already made up your mind to leave. All you really need now is a bit of confidence that you can do this on your own.
2007-08-20 16:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by tonetones03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes counseling would help. He will make your life so difficult in the long run, don't waste time, get counseling now.
2007-08-20 16:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i am in the same situation. i cant wait to see answers here!
2007-08-20 16:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by KRYSTL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darlin I strongly suggest you seek a counselor .. you are trying to "fix" him and you cannot do it! please do the right thing for YOU
2007-08-20 16:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Indiana Frenchman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋