Are you a man who doesnt like porn?

Question

i am a young christian wife who is really hurt and needs some faith to go on, so if you are a husband who is only sexually attracted and sexually stimulated by their wife, please let me know so that i know it is possible.

if you are not, please dont say anything. im cynical enough as it is at this point so im very aware that most men do it and dont care, so please refrain from leaving your negative comments.

thanks.

im sorry that i dont want to be one of those wives who are folding clothes with their small child in the room while daddy looks at porn the room over. i think its wrong and immoral regardless of what you say so if you have a rude comment keep it to yourself, i wasnt asking for a debate on this issue.

also, it says in the bible that adultery in the mind and heart is adultery all the same, so again, im not going to compromise my morals or views on that so please dont try and make me.

ps, despite those irrelavant negative comments i really appreciate those of you who are being helpful

and im not a "spoilt" brat, but you are obviously illiterate and rude. i grew up in an abusive violent home, was on my own by 17, and when i found my husband and some sort of happily ever after he lied to me throughout our whole relationship about this matter.

spoiled? no. tired of guys like you? yes.

Answer 1

Yes. I am a man who does not enjoy porn. Simple as that. I hope you don't need me to explain why I DON'T like porn. I would much rather see how someone tries to explain why they do. And be convincing....

Answer 2

All cynicism aside...just know that there is nothing wrong with you. It is the basic difference between men and women with porn. You find a decent portion of each gender that crosses the line one way or the other. Yes, I am a man, and yes I love porn. I am also a christian. Many people don't understand the dicotomy of a christian who likes porn, but in my mind it all lies in how it is used. If it is used as an aid within a relationship then it can be a good thing. If it is used as a way or circumventing your marital duties and desires then it is harmful. I think that is the major key. I just hope he isn't forcing it on you, and if you do watch it, try to with an open mind of how it can help you and don't do it for him.

Answer 3

I don't watch porn and don't download it I have no interest in it.

I am also Christian and have been married over 10 years.

BUT it would be a lie if I said I was only sexually attracted to my wife, I NEVER, NEVER, NEVER plan on acting on any of the attractions and pray to God to keep me strong BUT I do have thoughts and look at other women.

Men are visual and we look and have thoughts, IT IS A FACT!

Some men go overboard with porn! Others go fully overboard and have affairs. BUT if a man tells you he is ONLY attracted to you and gets no stimulation when he sees an attractive woman he is LYING!

You want the truth here it is, NO MAN WILL ONLY BE ATTRACTED TO YOU AN TURNED ON BY YOU ALONE!

I pray you can get some good Christian Marriage Counseling!

Answer 4

Well, dear lady, it sounds like you have already made up your mind. Men enjoy pornography. It's a fact. That does not make us any less worthy. Some of us obsess on it, and for that there is help - but the guy has to recognize that he has a problem and needs to take steps to deal with it.
Pornography DOES NOT lead to infidelity, sexual abuse of minors or other misconduct. It has been around since men and women lived in caves and drew crude pictures on the walls with different colors of mud. And some of the most creative and inventive producers of pornography are happily married women. So please find something else to expend your energy on...

Answer 5

My husband isn't interested in porn, but he isn't interested in sex in general. For the most part, you have to pick your battles. It's normal for young person with a healthy sexual appetite (male OR female) to occasionally look at porn. Most likely, if you find a man who has absolutely zero interest and curiosity about porn, it will be a man with no sexual drive whatsoever - so he won't be "sexually stimulated" by you, either. If this is acceptable to you, then this is what you need to look for. There are men like this out there.

(I'm a female, and I look at porn occasionally. But everything in moderation, of course.)

Answer 6

Often wives cannot fulfil the variety of sexual dreams a man has. Consuming porn is a comfortable way out of this dilemma - a man can be faithful to his wife and still enjoy those areas of sex that she may be unwilling or unable to expore with him. The fact that a man consumes porn certainly does not mean that he does not love his wife.

Answer 7

Sorry but I like porn. It is normal for a guy to like porn. If you think any man doesnt look at women just because they r married then u r crazy.

Answer 8

Do you really think that a husband can be only sexually attracted to his wife? Does that seem natural to you?

Talk to your pastor. You have unrealistic notions of what it means to be an adult and a Christian.

Answer 9

I don't need porn or like porn, as long as my wife is giving it up!! I'm a happy man! Who wants to watch porn when your wife is right there for you to have!!

Answer 10

ignore the first answer... not all top contributors are good...

I dont like it either, but I have just asked my fiance not to watch it around me. He doesnt watch it all the time, nor does he "need" it as most weak men will claim, but he does have a few videos.

You need to talk to your husband honey... tell him how it makes you feel... hopefully he isnt a selfish pig who will blame you for his addiction.