They've grounded me until i go back to school in like 10 days. they did it this morning (at midnight).
I'm not even allowed out of my room! all they've done it for, is so I cant go out an meet this person they dont want me to see because they hate this person's guts. I've been in my room for just over 13 hours and i'm bored out of my head. I'm allowed out for water and food and stuff you know. and they havnt taken away my tv or my laptop (obviously or i wouldnt be able to write this), or my ipod or any of my stuff, just my life!
do you think this is fair?
2007-08-20 09:19:36 · 20 answers · asked by Kaidra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
omg i must be the most stupid person in the entire world, or maybe my parents are the stupid ones... i've got my laptop and his email adress, and my phone and his number!
2007-08-20 09:37:01 · update #1
Yes. Your parents obviously have a good reason for you not to see this person, whether they know things or think they're a bad influence on you they are doing the right thing. They're only trying to protect you from getting hurt or into trouble, the worst fear a parent has is seeing their child in danger when they could prevent it.
2007-08-20 09:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole W 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Having been in high school with the same types of parents, I feel your pain (if that's what you wanna call it.) NO! it is not fair, but life isn't fair. And honey depending on how log it takes you to graduate- and if they don't change their attitude, then you got a long road ahead. If I were you I would try to stay as involved in extracurricular activities as possible, that is exactly what I did. Band, softball, FFA, cheerleading, science club, power lifting, FCCLA president, track, and yearbook. I even held a job on the wkends to keep away from my family- but in the end- I am 22 with two children and a wife. I attend Navarro College, online taking 16 hours a semester with a 3 mth old and 20 mth old I care for 24 hrs/day. I still stay busy- but I made my own way and continue to do so. If my friends acted like yours I would walk up to them, say " Listen, I really appreciate the thought and efforts that you put into making my birday special. I am so sorry that my parents are so strict and erratic in what they allow me to do in life. However, if you feel it is necessary to be upset with me or to ignore me, that's fine- instead you should feel upset for me that I was unable to attend a party given by you guys, not upset things didn't happen according to planned. If there is a next time, y'all should try to get my parents involved since they can't seem to remember when they had me." If they are still pi*sy then forget about them and move on, they just wanted an excuse to have a part- and you were their scapegoat to do so. KEEP YOUR CHIN HELD HIGH! Depression is horrible during high school- try not to stress!
2016-04-01 08:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, they're just trying to protect you, but I guess locking you up in your room is a bit extreme. Obviously, from a teenager's prospective, it is never fair, but I don't blame your parents if you look from their point of view. Try talking to your parents and explain to them that you'll make an effort to not talk to this person, and you're going to have to really mean it. Don't say it just so you can get out of being grounded.
2007-08-20 09:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Irene \m/. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your right,(HA HA HA YEAH RIGHT) they should have taken everything away..!!!!!!!!!! If they dont like this person, there must be a reason.
As for the gounding i think its fair !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to earn back the priviliges....
And IM SURE we are not getting the FULL STORY. Im sure you threw some kind of fit like screaming at your mother , This is bullsh**!! Or other disrespectful things, or just whined and screamed................ Why did you need to see them at midnight????? Im assuming its a boy.......
Kids today are lucky....... As a kid i grew up with a drill sgt for a dad............... talk about strict.... if i defied him he would paddle me tell i couldnt sit............ and my mom was abusive..... So i think your pretty lucky.
Do as your told and you wont be in your room.
EDIT>>>>>>>>> Your playing with fire little girl. Yeah you go ahead and sneak around.......... he will knock you up..... and leave you broke with a kid, and make you fight him for child support for 18 years if he will hold a job long enough for you to collect 50.00 a month off him.... boy that sure will raise a kid.................................
.If you have to sneak around your up to no good..... so dont come back whining with he gives you a STD or gets your pregnant. I hope your parents catch you and take all your rights and privilages away.
2007-08-20 09:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, I cannot tell whether or it is entirely unfair because i cannot tell why you parents don't like this person, though it does seem to be a very extreme measure. If you don't even know the reason for their grounding yourself, ask them, and challenge their ideas against the person. If they really had no reason to hate the person, they would probably be easily convinced otherwise.
2007-08-20 10:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by ☢☠☣☢☠☣ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you never told us WHY your parents have done this. There's really no way anyone can tell you if this is fair or not without having any reasoning. And trust me, it's not just because they don't want you to see someone they don't like. Why did they tell you you're grounded?
2007-08-20 09:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no not really but they obviously felt strongly about you not seeing this person. if that's what it is. talk to them. find out what's going on in there head. you may not be able to change their opinion but at least you can understand and maybe get the room sentence lifted just a lil.
2007-08-20 09:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This person you want to meet with must be really terrible company!
Listen to your parents, agree not to meet him/her again and all will be normal again!
Your parents don't do this for fun, they have a good reason, or they wouldn't have been so drastic about it!
2007-08-20 09:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah well i have a friend who has to move because her parents dont want her to ee this person your lucky and at least they didnt take away your stuff cause i could sit on my computer all day and get on yahoo or myspace and i could watch tv all day or listen to music so your real lucky
2007-08-20 09:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, take it easy and think about that: if your parents don't like this person they must have a reason and they don't want you to get hurt...My advice, trust your parents, they know and want what is best for you...:-))
2007-08-20 09:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Olga M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋