okay theres this guy. he says ive never been through anything rough in my life. & i have many secrets about this ive done & do. & i dont know if i should tell him. usually when i tell people they freak out. & either dont want to be my friend anymore. i have a couple good friend who really care about me & help me when things go wrong & i think about going back to my old ways. SHOULD I TELL HIM ABOUT THE BAD THINGS IVE DONE & DO? OR IS IT BETTER NOT TO? please and thanks
2007-08-20 09:07:06 · 10 answers · asked by bowchickawowwowx3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
me & the guy are not going out. & i dont like him. he likes me, but nothings gonna happen! just friends!
2007-08-20 09:21:58 · update #1
salmagundi- uhhh...there bad? they would definitly effect any relationship?
2007-08-20 09:31:27 · update #2
If you don't want people to know about the things that go on in your life, then don't tell them.
When someone says "You don't know what rough is..." or something to that extent, just say to them "You haven't lived my life, so you wouldn't know what I've been through." and leave it at that.
2007-08-20 09:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a lot of drama with extra baggage then consider
your motive for telling him, do you want to drop the baggage?
start fresh with a new outlook on life, or do you enjoy the shock you give people when you tell them about your world in crisis? Honesty is a powerful truth that is meaningless without
change. if you tell the person about your issues is it that you really want him to know or you want him to rescue you from your never ending saga? you must determine what you tell this guy if it will do more harm than good , and why the damage has caused you to do the things you do, seek change and be desperate enough to make it happen. Today!
is good day to start.
2007-08-20 09:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through rough times but it is not necessary to share them with the world, so to speak. And no one is perfect. If your rough times can seriously affect your relationship, then you have a duty to be upfront. But I would hold back from unburdening yourself to this guy. Men can be overwhelmed with women sharing everything about themselves. I am not saying lie or hide but this boy can't change your past history, he can't solve your issues and it is not his responsibility to make you feel better about whatever it is you are concerned about. Relax and enjoy the relationship, take it one day at a time and stop thinking about the past - move on with your life and focus on this new relationship.
2007-08-20 09:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would if he hates you then I guess he isn't a friend get it over with same situation happened to me my mom thought people liked me at school but I was getting bullied and I dealt when I told her she talked to me because she care and she loves me
2007-08-20 09:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Corrin24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is never wrong ! Honesty is always the best in the long run . If people can"t handle it then it is their problem !
2007-08-20 09:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not look very accustomed to the Q&A technique us adults take area in. the 1st element you could desire to do is ASK a question. Then, possibly, human beings provides you with the respond.
2016-11-13 00:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people turn away from you when you tell your secrets to them, you best keep them inside and try to forget them.
2007-08-20 09:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think if you truly love the gut you should let him know because when he finds out himself he can dump u instead tell him and make him know you didnt mean to do it
2007-08-20 09:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by decky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOw bad are the things youve done?
2007-08-20 09:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can tell him some of the not so bad stuff. watch for his reaction, then decide if u want to tell him more.
2007-08-20 09:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by pell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋