well you see i am pregnant again!after just giving birth 3 months ago before that i got pregnant 2 months after my first was born so i have been pregnant now going on 3 yrs straight i am so devestated.it seemed like this was destined to happen to i was suppose to get an iud placed and kept missing my appiontments due to lack of child care for the other two and then my husband stayed home to watch them and our car broke down,but you see the whole time we used condoms and one day the condom slipped off during intercourse,i thought nothing of it until i missed my period that month and went to the clinic to get my birth control and found out i was pregnant i cried,literally cried i am beyond fertile i plan on getting the tubes tied after this.but the question is has anyone ever had 3 or more consecutive pregnancies and how did they deal with it.it is so hard do not recommend this to anyone just dont do it .
2007-08-20 08:37:59 · 8 answers · asked by ash1234 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh you poor girl, I know exactly how you feel.
I got pregnant 6 months after my second child was born, and again 6 months after my 3rd was born, having them so close together was very hard, and if I am honest I don't remember a lot of the early times with either my 3rd or 4th child.
There is no way to deal with it, you just have to take every single day as it comes and do your very best to make sure everyone gets what they need, and that includes you!
You didn't plan it, and regardless of what anyone says, sometimes you can do all the right things and still get caught out.
When I found I was pregnant with my 4th I cried and cried and cried, I even made it as far as the abortion clinic, but just could not go through with it. Then a couple of weeks later I had a bleed, and was amazed to be shown a little beating heart at an emergency scan. It put things into perspective, it didn't make anything any easier, but it made me look at things differently.
Just look after yourself as best you can, try to think that at least they will all grow up together and you will get the nappies/bottles/sleepless nights over and done with!
Someone once said to me that we are only given what we can cope with, it may seem massive now, but in time you will look back and be glad fate handed you this little surprise.
Good luck x x
2007-08-20 08:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, though any mom of twins or triplets would experience the same. My aunt had Irish twins--6 weeks after the birth of one child, she was pregnant with the other. During one month of the year, the kids are the same age.
When a condom slips, it's time for Plan B. But I'm sure you know that now.
What is hard? The constant demands on your time, the money issues, or spending days without talking to another adult?
Back in the old days, an older aunt would move in to help care for the kids. That's pretty much gone by, but do you have any relatives that could come by regularly, so you could at least do the grocery shopping w/o kids? Have you money enough to hire a nanny? or a nighttime nanny?
Best wishes,
TX Mom
Mine are 17 and 21
2007-08-20 08:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda close to your situation. I have 4 kids all under 6 and am pregnant with #5 so literally I've been perpetually pregnant. 2 of my kids are less than a year apart(found out I was pregnant at my post partum visit) and it IS hard. I cried when I found out I was pregnant again this last time. I was totally utterly devistated. I had been practicing fertility charting to avoid pregnancy, but since I was breastfeeding it masks some of the symptoms of fertility and literally overnight my observable signs went from nothing to full blown ovulation so it was like watching a train wreck from the caboose of the train and knowing there's nothing you can do to stop it. I was FINALLY going to go back to work(I've been a SAHM since my first was born because we couldn't afford daycare that was safe and not just bottle propping and babysitting via tv) So I had my job all lined up, some of my kids are in school and the youngest ones were going to go to a sitter I found, but now that I'm pregnant again, my whole world has had to be readjusted. It took me several months to get past it and actually get happy about it. It's kinda like mourning someone only the someone you are mourning is your not pregnant self. Take some time and I know it's hard, but eventually you'll find a way to be happy about it. I did. It took a long while to reach that point, but I'm actually looking forward to our 5th child in my herd.
2007-08-20 09:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt had 3 children in 3 years, it isnt exactly healthy because your body needs time to heal and you need time to bond with your exisisting children, it's hard to tend to everyone and be a mother when you're pregnant, don't get me wrong I want 4 kids but perhaps a year apart because the existing baby need a lot of atttention, I would still keep the baby if I were you and some how work things out to the best of your ability, best wishes and good luck hun. Congrats!
2007-08-20 08:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by ☆Leanne☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will really take a toll on your body, But many other women have made it through it. Including my mother, who has 12 children within 18 years. It was really hard on her body, as I said, she developed endometriosis, and ended up having a hysterectomy at 45, but well after she stopped having children.
As long as you can financially and emotionally support all your children, I see no problem in having them that close together. Those of us that were born closer together have a closer bond then those that have a few years in between.
2007-08-20 08:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by paganmom26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW-- no longer me, yet I do have a 5 twelve months previous, a 7 month previous and yet another due in July. My sister in regulation has 4 boys that are each and each approximately 11 months aside. the infants are all the only right of acquaintances... it is going to likely be ok. i'm scared, even nevertheless it may desire to all join the plan. =0) Congratulations and solid success. XO
2016-10-08 22:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law did. My hubby is the middle child, his sister is a year older and his brother a year younger. I've always wandered how she did it. My thoughts are with you. Look at it this way, at least you can get it over with all at once! I would like that part of it (I don't do well pregnant but want 3 children).
2007-08-20 10:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law had Irish twins-and she was in her forties! Three would be...well, gosh...really hard. Try to find a parenting group in your area-you are going to need something for YOU so you don't go insane! Plus? Don't forget to tend to your marriage's health because the kind fo stress you are under-well--you two are going ot need to be there for eachother and not let the petty **** tear you apart.
Good luck-it may be hard to see now, but think towards a day where they are buddies because they are so close in age.
2007-08-20 08:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋