PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!! I would appreciate your KIND answers so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ??

Question

HOW DO YOU HAVE PATIENTCE FOR A 50+ YEAR OLD, WHO DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO READ OR WRITE, AND HAS NO COMMON SENCE, WHAT-SO-EVER ?????????????????????

NOR DOES HE WANT TO LEARN TO READ AND WRITE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HE IS SO ANNOYING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HE CAN"T EVEN READ HIS OWN NAME, EVEN IF IT WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIS FACE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xzkarmen, the only two differences is that yours were willing to learn, and were successful, but mine, has been neither one !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Well that sound a bit harsh? Well here's my experience on it my mom was only able to go to school until the 3rd grade. She had to work to support her brothers. My father also was unable to continue his eduction past the 4th grade. I am 19 years old my parent are now in their mid 50's. I helped my mother in her school work keep in mind she did not know how to read write in English. She was able to accomplish so much with a little bit of patient I had for her know she is a top surgical nurse assistant. As for my father he with the help of my sisters he became an engineer for a resort and received his Linc in chemical engineering? A little patients can go a long way on any one even how difficult it is.

Answer 2

some people aren't as fouturnate as others. you just have to treat them like children. remember when you didnt know how to read nor write when you were little and how fustrating it was? It is sad when you look at it. But there are a lot of people like that. They just couldn't afford or allowed to get the education because of the place the lived. you should have the patience. It's harder for older people to learn how to read and write. When we are younger our brains are begning to develop so Its much easier for us to retain a lot of information.
Is this a foreinger?
There are ways to commmunicate. He must have lived up his 50 years of life somehow. and as for commin sense. if this person is from a different country. Just remember. every culture is difffernt. just because you do things a ceratin way doesnt mean that is the right way. they were raised one way and in their mind they think that, that is the best way to do things. Changing a person is a long process but you can do it. if you cant deal with it. leave the job to someone else who has the patience to help someone in this stuation.

Answer 3

Well, it's a hard situation to be in (on both sides). Patience will take you far...I had NO patience (in general) until I had kids. I really had to look inside myself to find my patience for them. It not very easy to tell you exactly how to find patience, but think about how you would feel if you were in his place? How would you want someone to treat you? Is it really making you feel any better by getting so frustrated by someone who's problems are really his own...not yours? You don't want to be wasting your time by getting worked up over someone else's issues?

Find out why he has such a deep issue with not being able to read or write. It could be because no one cared enough to help him when he was younger and there is a lot of resentment that has been building up. If you want, you can offer to help him learn how to read & write or find community classes that could help him. It is hard going through life without having a major fundamental communication skill. Lacking the knowledge of reading and writing is a HUGE setback to anyone. It can have horrible reprocussions on one's self esteem and functions throughout life. Lacking common sense may just be because of how he's been treated throughout his life. Maybe life doesn't make the same sense to him as it does you because you have this amazing skill to read & write which puts you on a completely different level of understanding than he does. It must be very confusing to see a newspaper, a computer, walk into a library, or even a hospital with signs everywhere that you can't understand. I think my life would be completely different if I couldn't read. How would your life be different if you thought about your daily routine but not being able to read or write? It's intense!!!

I think if you really care about this person, you have to choose to be patient. You have to think about them in their own shoes more than you have to think about yourself. That doesn't mean you aren't as important (actually quite opposite), it just means that you have the ability to prioritize your choices and you are choosing to not allow the situation to get to you. If you understand why he is the way he is, it helps to be able to take a deep breath and step back before your frustrating emotions get the best of you. It takes a little practice, but dont' give up.

I hope this helped in someway. Good Luck!

Answer 4

The reason why he is so annoying is because deep deep down inside he must feel that he is not as clever as most people....and by actually insisting that he refuse to learn is sometime some people way of covering up their flaws especially at that age when most, 99% people could read....he may feel humiliated by trying to learn.

You must have the empathy for such a person, place yourself in his shoes and actually feel his humiliation especially when others think it is so easy and for you it is not.

He must have block is mind to even try....you need to show him that it is ok not to find reading easy and he is not alone....it is a slow process and takes time and commitment that usually only a love one is willing to go through. You need to earn his trust before he open up to you to let you teach him.

Answer 5

It's almost impossible if he doesn't want to learn. Maybe he's afraid to try in case he fails but just won't admit to it. There are lots of literacy courses available for adults...perhaps you could find some info about it for him, and explain that everyone else on the course would be in the same boat so he wouldn't feel any less of a man....the world would be a far more interesting place for him if he could read....good luck!

Answer 6

Who is this person that you're talking about? Is it someone that you need to be around a lot? If not, then maybe not spend so much time with him so you won't be upset. But if you can't avoid him, then I suggest you try harder to tolerate him.

Maybe make it more fun to be around him, or make it fun for him to learn to read or write. It sounds like he has no motivation or incentive, so you might want to give him something to aim for, so when he succeeds, then he'll feel good about himself.

With all your question marks and exclamation marks, it sounds like you're a very impatient person. You might want to tone down your attitude and personality. You might be making this person NOT want to learn. Have you thought of that? Cuz I was already getting tired of reading your information because you're so dramatic, and you don't need to be. Relax, don't be so upset!

Answer 7

I used to work with a 65+ year old lady at the Good Will (I volunteered after school) that was illeterate. She was a very sweet old lady, but she just refused to learn how to read and write. After a while we just made a team of sorts - I would read everything to her and she would follow my direction.

Answer 8

Kindly understand him, and what may have happened to him. It's not possible for a 50 year old to not have any knowledge or common sense at that age not unless he has a mental disorder or memory loss, have another person to accompany him.

Answer 9

Well first of all, you have patience for some one who obviously is disabled in some form or fashion if they are 50 and can't read or write. I seriously hope you are not their caretaker because it is apparent that you lack that patience.

Answer 10

Well, just be patience. Think of it this way, what if it was the other way around? How would feel if someone think you can't read nor write? Be kind.