Why would a woman, or a man for that matter, hit on a married, or engaged man or woman? ok let me back up a bit...
You are attracted to someone you work with, you know he is married or engaged, and you try anyway. He rejects you, puts you in your place telling you he is happy with his wife, or she with her husband, and yet you continue to seek them out.
Why? Why would someone be so selfish as to seek out married men/women? Is this person so desperate and disgusting, that they cannot find their own man/woman?
Comments concerns, lol vicious attacks?
2007-08-20 08:01:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, I am not the woman who is hitting on a married man... for the love of GOD.. I am the person who wants to beat the living HELL out of the disgusting bitc* who is doing this. I'm one of the lucky ones though, my fiance doesnt pay attention to this woman, and he wouldnt. Some men are cheaters, some arent and mine isnt. I just want to understand what the hell would make a person be such a disgusting pig as to ask a damn near married man on a date... how bold. Oooh I could just slap her.
2007-08-20 08:29:26 · update #1
I think it's a stupid and dangerous game some people play. You would think that they would outgrow it, once they reached a certain age, but apparently they haven't reached an adult level of maturity. I know someone who is married, and brings his mistress to his house with his wife's permission. It's really sickening to me to even hear about it. This guy might not know I know about it, since he is close to my husband not me. Anyway, I sense that he is often trying to scope me out like a predator waiting to pounce, so I am uncomfortable around him at all times. His stupid game is apparently worth more to him than his marriage and his friendships. Obviously he can find women who are willing. I'm just not one of them. He disgusts me completely.
2007-08-20 12:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
envy, jealousy, desire for power (over the person's spouse) especially if it is indeed a good pure loving relationship.
On the other end many people prefer to hit on married men / women because it becomes nothing else but a "relationship" with no string attached. When it is done the one goes back to his / her spouse and the one pursuing feels still as free and single as a bird. I don't buy the desperation fact, i think it is more of a no commitment situation.
2007-08-20 08:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do married men or women entertain these advances?
And honestly, it IS all about the sex. You don't have to call them everyday. You don't have to hear them nagging and whatnot about you going out without them. You get sex, and get out. That's what it's all about. And it's the same for the married people who go for it. It's about sex, plain and simple. Married people aren't getting enough sex/attention at home, and the ones who hit on married people don't want the drama of having a real relationship. They can give them back in a sense.
2007-08-20 08:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that affairs are necessarily about sex. They are about ego, narcisism, and control. People who are in a loving relationship, who try to fulfil eachothers needs would never do this. Also, and this is not a cop out because we should be responsible for our actions, affairs have been glamorized to the point that ppl think they are normal. It is too bad that we are allowing the drama geeks from High School to take over our lives after HS.
2007-08-20 08:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many, many challenges that befall marrage or engaged cuples. weather it be finanancial, carrier, sex, ect. one thing for sure, one had better have integrity in check. because either one of these could shoot this relationship right out of the sky. and as far as why some like hitting on married or engaged ppl, from experience, is that these people hav no morrels, respect or boundry control. they even like men or women who are well established so that they don't feel like they will be cheated on. ( like that makes any cense) in short, they need some counseling seriously bad.
2007-08-20 08:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bidasha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is an egoistic woman who has had everything she wanted in life and will not compromise for anybody. such selfish woman lays her eyes on weak minded married man who gets carried away by the lady's independent and outwardly attitude and destroys his family life.
whatever said and done, the woman is only partly responsible, main accused is the weak man and the victims r the man's family.
2007-08-20 08:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by purna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, because that person would feel like they were "better" because they stole the person away. It's a competition-power thing. Like a game that they are trying to win. Probably a person with low self-esteem but on the outside acts like they're HOT.
2007-08-20 08:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dacious P.I. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for some reason people love temptation and the love the idea of trying for something they cant have its almost a game to them try and break the person down get what they want some people never take no for an answer its sad huh?
2007-08-20 09:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by chrissieanne1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often times people want/seek those things they cannot have more so then the things they can more easily obtain. A relationship can be more obtainable then the big house, expensive car or lavish vacation so they pursue it because it seems so much closer...
2007-08-20 08:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by jjonesacctony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just that deviant. However, sometimes the spouse lies about being pursued...and he's actually a party to such behavior too.
2007-08-20 08:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by What Lil' Girls R Made Of... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋