Gay Rights?!?

Question

I have a sister that is going through a child custody thing with her ex, I told her she might be able to find someone on yahoo answers that can help her out. Her ex is a gay man that uses gay rights to manipulate the court. Well, she asked the question on here and as soon as she mentioned that her ex is gay, everyone was defensive about it, gays and straight people. Well, I am not against gay people and I am not a gay basher, but, I do not believe it should be represented in court, I don't have anything against gays and they can be just as good parents as straight people and they can be just as bad as any straight person also. I know this particular man is not a good person or parent, not because he's gay, its just his whole attitude. I don't think gay people should get special treatment, just because they are gay, being gay is not a handicap, it is a chosen way of life and they should be treated like everyone else. Is gay such a sensitive topic that they should get everything?

Answer 1

Hi. See what I mean? these bitches and assholes stick up for gays. One saying about they are not getting the whole story, how in the hell would they Know? I hate these people who get offensive when a question about a gay man is brought up. You are speaking to a bunch of ignorant people. I feel if they don't like the question? stay away from it. Most of these people are just looking for arguements. All and all, the strait people use to rule the world. Now the gays are doing it. It is a way of life. They are stupid cry asses to say they were born that way. Isn't it exactly what I told you? I would like to refraise a little bit. I saw a couple of people that get it and understand the question also, they support it on a strait person's point of veiw not the gay side but those people are few and far in between.

Answer 2

Because, Time has passed. That act alone is fundamental in how we perceive other people, circumstances, and situations. If I were to say (yes this is off topic) would you like this glass of milk? you may say yes....then you go to take the glass of milk and only then do you realize that this glass of milk is gross and green. you would no longer want the milk. BUT HEY before hand you did DIDNTT YOU!?!? cuz after all you have a set idea of what milk is, how delicious it is...but this milk is different thus you act differently towards it by thanking the person and pouring it down the sink. Though that analogy may be off relation the principle is the same. we all have set of how gays, blacks, jews, hispanics how EVEYROEN SHOULD BE. But the fact of hte matter is everyone is different some are immoral and filthy just as some straight white men are. we are all unique. Over time we grow, and we learn to pass these "set values of how people are" on, just as our parents (those men calling blacks immoral in the 50's) passed those SAME VALUES ONTO US. though....we are not those men in the 50's are we? no. today we are ourselves, we have the capability to make our own choices, NOT the choices that our parents and grandparents made. because after all the world is different now.....hahaha.....we can see that the milk is gross and green when they could not. So the question is not whether they are the same gay rights and black rights....for it is wrong to say they are when time has elapsed but more importantly what will we do NOW with the choices that are laid out in front of us TODAY... SO THAT MAYBE. JUST MAYBE our future will be different than the future our grandparents from the fifties gave us. Be open minded and maybe things will change for the better :)

Answer 3

You are wrong in that it is a chosen lifestyle.

You are right in that it is not a handicap. Just as a colored person could use racism as his defense, it sounds as if he is using it as court strategy. But, dont get carried away, gay people dont get 'everything'.

If he is able to win the case using that defense it is either true, or the offense is not good enough. The whole point of the court case is to find harm in him being the parent. Dont worry about his claim, instead work around it and make your own that regardless of his sexual orientation he is a bad parent; and then present the harm.

Answer 4

Please don't say that being gay is a "chosen way of life" since you couldn't be more wrong and its offensive (do some research).
I see what you're saying though, that he's abusing his sexuality to gain custody of his child. I don't see how being gay will give him any advantage over the case as it has nothing to do with raising children and the courts will see through that. Let them decide since they're the ones who've done this before and they know what they're doing.
If he's trying to get full custody, he won't get it unless he has hard evidence to prove that the mother is unfit to look after the child (and I'm guessing she is fit to be a mother, in which case you have nothing to worry about).
If he's trying to share custody, then as the father he has every right to see his child as it is as much his and it is the mother's and unless he's done something bad towards the child she has no right to stop him from seeing his own child.
My parents have been through this 3 times now, so I know a bit :)

Answer 5

First off, I am gay, I've known since I was very young. I am for equal rights, if that means calling it "gay rights" then so be it. Secondly, if your sister is using the fact that he is gay to try to sway the courts to her side, then he should be free to use that fact as well! Now if she hasn't used that, then nor should he! Why could they not have joint custody? Do neither of them think that the other would be devastated to lose their child? My older brother is gay, was married, has three children, which he raised and has almost complete custody of, not because he played the gay card, but because their mother wanted it that way! He is a great father, which all that matters!
As far as being gay being a choice, sorry its as much a choice as you chose to be straight. Trust me, I enjoy having to look over my shoulder to make sure no body is going to try to attack me for being gay!

Answer 6

I don't know anyone who is gay who feels that we should get everything. But particularly in a custody case, there are too many instances where an attory tries to manipulate the issue and turn it into a gay = bad parent thing.

There are indeed gay men who are lousy parents, and if this guy is a lousy guy, he won't get custody regardless of his orientation. Or shouldn't get custody.

Answer 7

no its not like its a disability and that we should get special rights and treatment. i actually resent people that pull out the gay card. I'm like who cares?

usually the mother always wins the case. 9 times out of 10 and if this guy is really as bad as you say he is i have full faith that ur sister will get custody.

Answer 8

I was with you until "being gay is not a handicap, it is a chosen way of life"...

How exactly is he using "gay rights" to manipulate the court?

Answer 9

The fact that he is gay should not sway the courts for or against him. Imo, that would not be "fair". But again, nothing in life is fair...

Answer 10

Gays are the only "minority" on the face of this earth who are a self declared minority. In the closet, they have the same rights as all others, yet they come out of the closet and therefore feel entitled to demand equal rights? What they are actually doing is demanding acceptance of their particular proclivity. It isn't an equal rights proposition. Jeez...get a clue, restore you own equal rights by going back into closet! How simple can it be? I realize this doesn't directly address your question, but I have passed the point of disgust over this non-sense about equal rights for people who live in the pretense of not having "equal rights."