my best friend's best friend has always been a ***** to me. she is so snobby and i try so hard to be nice to her because she is afterall my best friends best friend but today at school she told me "why are you talking to me?" and gave me this disgusted look and walked on.
i told my best friend about it and she laughed and changed the subject. i made some new friends with the new girls at school. should i just give up on trying to get through to my best friend. ive tried to hard to tell her how i feel. also, she is sooo immature and cant be serious when i need her to be. the new girls and i really hit it off and id like to be friends with them.
should i just go be friends with them or keep on trying to get through to my friend about how her friend hurts me.
2007-08-20 07:56:17 · 34 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it sounds like you are growing up and your current friend isn't. it's always nice to make new friends. i say you be friends with the new girls, and keep in touch with your other friend. but if she starts to be like her other friend that is mean to you, then you're better off without her. good luck!
2007-08-20 08:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is obviously trying not to get in the middle. You and the other person have the drama, not your best friend. What can your best friend do about it anyway. You need to move on and leave the person alone. Your best friend is still your best friend and you don't have to affiliate with the same groups of people. Enjoy your new group of friends as well. We cannot control anyone. If the person doesn't like you, then so be it, stay away from that person. Good Luck.
2007-08-20 08:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by flirty30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on to new friends, but you don't have to write the old ones out of your life. If the person you call your best friends is letting her other friends treat you badly, then she really isn't a friend to you at all. You don't have to make a declaration that you aren't going to be her best friend anymore. Just start hanging out with the new girls some more. If the old friend really misses you, then she'll make time for you. Then you can have new and old friends together.
2007-08-20 08:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you answered your own question. Of course you should be friends with the new girls that you hit it off with. Your best friend, if she truly is your best friend will want to know why you haven't been around at some point and then you can point blank tell her that you don't appreciate how her friend treats you and since she won't say anything to her, you don't want to subject yourself to that. You will have a much better time with the girls that you like hanging out with. Good Luck!
2007-08-20 08:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by donanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you well, I used to try to be nice to people even when they were not friendly to me just because I didn't want any conflicts... But I should tell you that this only makes people think you can't protect yourself and they start treating you really badly. Sorry, but it's time to accept the truth: your friend is not going to stop that girl from treating you badly because that unpleasant girl is more important for her and... because she is comfortable like that. Only you are not. These two are quite ok being mean to you and pretending not to see it. Protect yourself and never try to be nice to wicked people. Don't let anybody hurt you. Some people hurt others just for fun. Don't let them use you. Be strong. About your friend - she doesn't want really much to be friends with you, she's already made her choice and she stopped to be your friend long time ago, just you didn't want to see it. She's a fake friend. better be careful. If that bad girl will want to hurt you - will she stop her? Don't think so.
2007-08-20 08:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that same situation it came too the point that i just ignored her even though she was my best friend.She likes too be with alot of people and when she meets new friends she just forgets about me I used to remind her im her bf like nobody she'll have but she didnt pay attention so i got new friens whatever and started hanging out.So what im trying too say there are going too be moments where you and your best friend are going too be separated for a time by new people.But you guys just gotta handle of not letting people get between your bond but you guys will come back for each other.
2007-08-20 08:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE FRIENDS WITH WHOMEVER YOU'D LIKE!!!
You don't have to "ONLY be friends with a certain group of girls". Often those groups, or clicks, work this way. They pick on one of the girls in the click one week and then another the next. If you have several groups of friends, then you can just go hang out with someone else when there is an immature problem with one group and it won't bother you so much because you'll still be with friends!!
2007-08-20 08:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't much sense in trying to be friends with your best friend's best friend if she's going to treat you like she has. There is also little sense in constantly relaying your feelings to your best friend about all this. Continue to be a friend to your best friend and leave the other one in the dust. As to the new girls you've mentioned, go for it. Be friends with them! Why shouldn't you be? Life isn't an either/or situation. You can be friends with anyone you choose and not have to sacrifice another friendship to it. Hopefully your best friend will see what a jerk she has as her best friend and wake up one day. Good luck!
2007-08-20 08:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot hold your best friend for the way her other friends act but since you decide who your friends are, I would not waste my time even acknowledging the other girl's existence. Don;t put your friend on the spot because she obviously likes this other girl so just keep her a long handled spoon away and enjoy the friendship you have with the other girl
2007-08-20 08:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best friends best friend doesn't like you because of all the crap your "best friend" has told her about you behind your back, that's why when you asked her about it she laughed and changed the subject. Your "best friend" isn't really a friend at all and you should give her the cold shoulder and blow her off when she tries to talk to you. Make new friends in a new crowd who aren't fake and shallow.
2007-08-20 08:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought how great it would be if girls could get along like guys do. Girls can't seem to get along in groups like they do. Girls are more possessive of each other. Why oh why were we made that way? ;)
Friendships change. It may be time to move on. If your "BF" is not going to stand up for you, she isn't a "best" friend is she?
2007-08-20 08:03:07 · answer #11 · answered by Crunchy Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋