I overheard a conversation where a pleasant lady stated "On so and so you cut your hair. The response from the person was "I didn't cut my hair, the hairdresser did" in a not so nice tone. What makes people this way?
2007-08-20 07:41:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Having been an extremely contrary person in my formative and early "adult" years, I believe I can respond to this.
I was one of six siblings, and next to the youngest. My opinions weren't very valued and nobody took much stock in what I had to say.
I learned to be aggressive, as opposed to assertive, which alienated folks more and made me feel more determined to make myself heard.
Sometimes I was just a smart-@$$. (Sometimes I still am!)
My husband says Y!A has been good for me, because I can get on my soapbox and nobody cuts me down. He said it's probably the first time anybody has paid attention to what I have to say, and in turn, it makes me a more reasonable person.
2007-08-20 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by felines 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you overheard was a pleasant lady being really nosy, and perhaps the lady giving her the response was tired of her asking nosy questions. Maybe you did not hear all of the other questions and view it from both sides. I have a few neighbors who will ask specific inquiring questions just to find out more details about you.
Otherwise, being contrary is a learned experience. These people are always on the defensive because something or someone has made them that way. I try to avoid asking questions like the one above because it sounded like the lady was implying that "so you cut your own hair? which would have meant that the woman's hair looked bad. I would have taken it that way, but would have have said "No, I don't cut my own hair, I wish I could." That would have been a nicer response. Unfortunately, a lot of women are just a bunch of gossips. Thank goodness they are not all that way.
Thanks for asking, Daisymae. I like your questions.
2007-08-20 07:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by makeitright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, what "so and so" said was kind of dumb. It wasn't a question like, "Oh, did you cut your hair?" This could be a conversation starter for women, I suppose.
I suspect the woman who's hair got cut already knew she had gotten a hair cut and wondered if "so and so" thought she was mentally deficient and didn't remember. Even though the hair cut woman probably knew that "so and so" was trying to start a conversation, she probably thought it was a dumb way to do it.
I know this is just an example that I have taken too literally and that there are cantankerous people out there. I'm one of them a lot of the time especially when approached by someone I know is just going to waste my time.
For example, I'm often "accosted" by people at the cemetery when I go to visit family graves. I don't go there to hear their sad stories or listen to their yarns. One guy, a sometime country music disk jockey and failed singer, catches me all the time unless I see him coming and even sings to me. Makes me want to pee in his boots. Now, that's contrary and for good reason.
Funny thing about these time wasters is that when it's your turn to talk on the rare occasion you can get a word in edgewise you can see that they have that thousand yard stare that says they're thinking of what to regale you with next. I have an in-law like that and it drives me up the wall. You know what you're going to get and it makes you contrary from the onset. One way to see if these "great communicators" are listening is to put this short sentence in the middle of your speal, "I think you've got dog poop on your shoe." When they don't look down you know ther're not listening.
I could go on giving example after example because I don't like to waste time and don't suffer fools gracefully. That's what makes some people contrary although I rather think of myself as a contrary, cantankerous curmudgeon to time wasters and a cuddley old teddy-bear to others..
2007-08-20 09:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sarcasm is thinly disguised hostility. Contrary people are not happy for a variety of reasons -too many to list here, but a few. . . . poor health, family problems, lost friends, lost loves, lonely, etc. etc. When I encounter people who appear to be contrary I usually try to find out what's happening with them. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
2007-08-20 08:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things that make them seem cranky. I liked to get that type as patients when I worked in a doctor's office.
After you fuss right back at them they usually start smiling or laughing. They were usually in a better mood when they left.
2007-08-20 08:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some people think the world revolves around them and when things don't go their way, they get pissy. I don't get it. It just makes the cranky person look rude.
2007-08-20 08:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 00:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They like to be right about anything and everything and correct people. makes them feel better about themselves.
2007-08-20 07:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your avatar hair looks fine.
people today like to be rude.
2007-08-20 08:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by robert p 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Their sarcasm is their form of being funny.
2007-08-20 07:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋