Does this make me a horrible person?

Question

I have Gay friends about 4
and i realy dont like the way theyt parade it to me
especialy one, she goes on about girls ummm ya know and i've said to her
can you not talk to me about them becuase i'm not Gay and she still does it.
I aslo have a gay friend boy who's going out with another boy and well i dont like it. Is there somthing wrong with me in thinking its kind of wrong that they say their gay and talk to me about it at 15
I mean plase
No one knows who they are at this age

Oh god i know what this question sound like i just read it back
I'm not a bitchy person i dont go on about Boys to them, and i'm very open minded about sexuality but i'm definatly straight though but i dont talk to them about it
This one girl said to me " I like minge"
I mean am i supposed to put up with that if it makes me hurl
No so please dont call me niave or bitchy becuase thats over stepping the line

Answer 1

first off you're not a horrible person. Hey I got Gay/Lesbian family and friends and I'm Ok with it. I think it is possible to be homosexual at your age, but I think it's more common to be confused. If it really bothers you the way they discuss things you may have to find different people to hang with. If they are gay/lesbian that's what they are and you can't expect them to "turn it off" when straight people are around. My gay friends cringe and make comments about how gross it is when people talk about straight sexual experiences around them. I think it's admirable how you ask a genuine question as a young teen, but I think it's funny that as soon as you post a question like this, asking a legitimate question, and pro gay/lesbian members start attacking you with their comments. HEY GAY AND LESBIAN PEOPLES, HOW DO YOU THINK YOUR MEAN AND CONDESCENDING REMARKS WILL AFFECT THIS YOUNG TEENS VIEWS TOWARDS YOU AND YOUR MOVEMENTS? Some young people seem to think it's "cool" to say your Gay, Lesbian or Bi these days so maybe it's just banter, who knows. In the end it does not make you a horrible person to not be OK with homosexuality, but it does make you a horrible person if you persecute, harass and mistreat someone because they are.

Answer 2

The first thing I would say is good on you for asking the question. You obviously want to give some thought to your beliefs and you obviously want some honest opinons, thus why you have posted the question in this section. What I would say is people can annoy us for all kinds of reasons. To hate or dislike someone purely on the grounds of their sexuality is a little unfair. However you are perfectly entitled to find some people's behaviour annoying and to voice your opinion on it.
Much as people have to respect your right to feel uncomfortable you do have to be honest with yourself as to how 'rational' what you're thinking is. Don't get me wrong it would be a dull world if everyone were the same, but you can not dislike someone purely because of their assumed or otherwise sexuality.

Answer 3

Yes, you are doing something horrible if you judge people for who they are -- and a person's sexual identity is innate -- it can't be changed.

Could you imagine dating a woman? Of course not! You're straight. Who you are is who you are -- and if you don't like someone "parading" who they are, then yes, that is a pretty horrible way of reacting to the world.

The good news is that you at least wonder if it makes you a horrible person. That shows that, at your core, there is something good about you -- at that is what is most important. So you probably aren't a horrible person -- but if you react in a really mean way to someone who is gay, and can't help being gay, then that's something to work on. Obviously, this is an opinion.

That being said, if the idea of gay sex grosses you out, that's totally normal. If gay people kissing seems weird to you and you don't want to see it, that's totally normal. But just keep it to yourself. I think old people smell bad -- but do I tell them? Hell no. Certain things are annoying, but you still shouldn't judge people for them. Just work on being a good person yourself, you know? On the other hand, if a lesbian female friend is telling you, in graphic detail, about having sex with a woman, and you think it's nasty and gross, you could try to politely let her know you'd rather talk about something else -- "Can we change the topic? I have no problem with lesbians, but discussing lesbian sex really isn't my thing..."

Answer 4

I'm just thankful my friends were never like you. If you're a true friend you would let them talk about whatever they want to and you wouldn't judge them. Do they have a problem with you talking about guys? Probably not, so why can't you return the favour and support them?

Luckily my friends were amazing and helped me through a lot. I thought I was gay from the age of 12 and finally came out to all my family and friends when I was 15. It wasn't a phase, I was sure of it and it took a lot of guts to come out. 15 really isn't that young... I had loads of gay friends at that age and suprise suprise... they're all still gay 7 years later.

I think you need to learn how to accept your friends. Why exactly do you think it's 'wrong'?

Answer 5

Well one of them isn't much of a friend if you've asked her to stop and she hasn't.

I'm afraid a gay boy friend going out with another boy isn't something to get upset about (unless they insist on telling you the gory details, of course) that's what they do.

And tell me are you interested in the opposite sex? and you've already said you're not gay. If they don't know who they are at this age, how do you? (I'm assuming you're the same age group).

It doesn't make you a horrible person but it does make you naive. Don't worry you'll grow out of it.

Answer 6

Well maybe u dont accept ur friends for who they r and if u were really friends with them u would accept who they r and dont cretziez them and if u dont wont to hear what they r talking about leave or change the supjeck

Answer 7

No you are not a horrible person at all, I have nothing against gays but I just dont like to see it paraded in front of me. If they are gay good for them but why do they feel they have to tell the whole world, does my head in.

And dont listen to that Garrett C who answered your question, he posted something about a dead cat yesterday, it got deleted thank god it was disgusting.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you need to be looking for a different circle of friends !!
However your current friends should try and respect that you are not interested in some of their talk

Answer 9

no it just makes you a bad friend, if you cant accept some one for who they are then thats your problem not hers, Ive known I was gay sense I was 12,so its when ever you find your self. its some thing about people that makes them who they are, age has nothing to do with it. I personally think you need to get the "lesbian" out of your head you will be fine with it. its not like she is going after you..... right? people are who they are and you will run in to it all of your life. and you are willing to loose a friendship with some one because of there sexual preference than that's your problem not hers. AND YOU NEED TO TELL HER YOUR FEELINGS BEFORE YOU HURT HER MORE. THAN YOU ARE

Answer 10

They're showing off and trying to be "outrageous" and different and the centre of attention.

Yawn and walk away a bit... Point out you dont talk to them about your hetrosexuality.... yeah ?

They'll gow out of it in a year or two, Stick by your friends, but distance yourself from thier boring "uber-gay" outbursts.

Ignore all these idiots calling you intolerant and homophobic, you're not... you sound like someone who's just not interested in show-off's and thats cool.