Anyone had similar problems?

Question

During my last pregnancy which ended in a birth at 21 weeks, which doctors called a 2nd trimester miscarriage, I started bleeding at about 12 weeks. The doctors could not find a reason why. Went on bed rest, but nothing helped. Am going to try again, but nervous not know what went wrong last time.

Answer 1

Have you discussed what possibly went wrong with your Dr. back when you miscarried? Didn't s/he explain what s/he thought occurred? If not, s/he should have and I reccomend you return to get some concrete answers.

I understand the fear of going through that type of pain again. It is very painful to experiance a miscarriage at such a late period in a pregnancy. My daughter lost twins, a boy and girl. She too was very scared of a repeat event, yet she had to try right away, as soon as her body had fully recovered because she has cervical cancer. If she didn't have her children right away she would never be able to have children because they had to take her uterus and cervics out. She now has two children a son and a daugher and she had her hysterectomy, and her cancer is gone.

There are many reasons why a woman has misscarriage. Many of these reasons do not automatically mean it will be repeated. There are a lot of women who have had one misscarriage and then went on to have healthy children. Sometimes there is something wrong with the bady and so the body misscarries the fetus. It is natures way of ensuring the most healthy children are born. It is sad and very painful when it occurres.

Unless there is a reason to hurry, try to allow yourself time to grieve the loss of your last child before trying again. Unresolved grief can cause negitive consequences for both mother and child if she conceives too soon after a misscarriage. My mother had a misscarriage after my brother and the Dr. told her to wait at least two years before trying again. She followed his advice and gave birth to my sister three years later. She was a healthy baby and the pregnancy went as expected, no difficulties or problems.

I am really sorry you lost your baby. It is sad and tragic and I really feel for you. Please be sure you are well before conceiving again, and allow the worst of the pain and grief to subside. It will be well worth it in the long run. Talk with your Dr. and find out what went wrong so you can prepare. It may have just been a one time situation and that you will conceive and carry the next child without any troubles.

Good luck and I wish you much happiness with any future children you have.

Answer 2

You might have an incompetant cervix, which means as soon as a certain weight is on your cervix it dilates and opens as it can't hold it. I would ask about having a cerclage in just in case. You may never know what went wrong. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Have they checked your progesterone levels? A particular level of progesterone is needed to sustain a pregnancy. This can be solved through regular hormone injections.