Hi
I am truly not a biatch or anything but I really need help
concerning my friend,she is being really nasty
to me and my other friend Jemma and we dont
know what to do.I have known her since I was
younger and we have been OK friends but she
can never exept that she is wrong and is always
putting overs down.I have tried apoloagising to
her even thought I havent done anything wrong
but it makes her worse.I really need a plan
not someone telling me to makeup with her or
ignore her I really need a plan so that she stops
being nasty and can relise that she is sometimes
wrong.Please can someone send me a proper
plan (like a trick to get her to relise she is not perfect)
as otherwise she will NEVER relise.
Thankyou so much
Katie x
2007-08-20 06:40:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Katie, most people who cannot admit that they are wrong are very insecure. Trying to trick them or catch them doing something will only make it worse. If she is really your friend, pick a good time the two of you can talk. Tell her you have been thinking about your friendship and you want her to know that you will be her friend no matter what. In good times and bad whether she is right or wrong because that is what friends are for. Then ask if she feels the same. If she says yes, then you tell her that she is not always right and that it doesn't matter to you if she is right or not, you just want to have a good friend and you don't want others to think less of her if you know what she is saying is wrong. After all a friend would not want a best friend to look stupid.
Good luck.
2007-08-20 06:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Richard W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look forward the world does not ends with one or two friend. You can not control the feelings of your friend from your end. If she did not have care for your then why you are bothering much about her. Lover her, you are free to do so but don' t expect the same from her. What you are doing is only showing your weakness , which is not good at all for sustaining long friendship. I think your problem will be solved automatically only time matters. Such type of friend weakness is not good in this life. I know your heart is full of love, spread this love to all your friends, help them.
2007-08-20 14:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by bihariraja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her and do not let her nastiness get to you. She cannot hurt you unless you allow her so. Practise this approach for a period of time. Hopefully she notices the change and become sensible enough to ask and examine herself. Then this will be the opportunity for you to tell her. Hopefully when it happen she is ready to listen. Only when she is ready and prepared to listen nothing else work. All the best.
2007-08-20 13:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kenny G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have everyone of her friends that agree with you, but still care about her get together and have a calm sit down with her...or try to at least everyone can write down how she makes them feel but also say the good things about her to. and just tell her this is how we feel you can start treating us right or we don't want to surround ourselves with people who are mean.
2007-08-20 13:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by rachelrmf@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is a friend, why don't you try talkign to her and explaining how you feel???
.....'tricking' someone is lowering your standards to do something underhanded to show someone else they are not always right - is wrong too!
try taking the mature route and be a TRUE friend and talk to her instead of judging her - maybe there is reasons for it that you don't realize or understand
2007-08-20 13:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Precious Taboo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Buy her a Card of friendship and inside write these words
" what ever there is in our futures I hope our friendship will
always be part of it" xoxoxo Katie
2007-08-20 13:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by stones 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend has problems, possibly due to her past and may need to seek a professional help.
2007-08-20 13:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her completely, It is the only way to make a person realize that what they are doing is unacceptable.
2007-08-20 13:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say give her a taste of her own medicine
if that doesn't work theni don't know what to do! thats tricky
2007-08-20 13:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by csjhine3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop calling her and keep your distance.
make her come begging to you.
distance yourself from her as much as you can. also practice listening to why she thinks she's always right.
2007-08-20 13:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋