What did you do when you found out they cheated?

Question

Did you stay, or did you get revenge, and how?

Answer 1

Leave. When I found out by boyfriend cheated on me I confronted him about it then left him. I made the mistake of going back to him because he swore up and down that he would never cheat on me ever again and what do you know, I found out he did it again.

Once a cheater always a cheater! Revenge won't do anything but give yourself a bad reputation..

Answer 2

I was pissed. I divorced him immediately but after that I did some revenge. At that time, revenge was neccessary because he had maxed out one of my credit cards and sold all my belongings I had in storage. I got even by calling the President of his company and telling him they had an ex felon working for them-- he got fired after that phone call. I threatned to take it to the press if they did nothing. I also got even by posting the new girlfriend on www.alt.com and by calling numerous government agencies like animal control, police, fire to go to their house and investigate suspicious behavior. After I got bored and they got into major trouble, I stopped and move on.

Answer 3

The best revenge is to leave, never take a call from them again, and find yourself someone who makes you shine from within. Show them the same courtesy that they showed you. Go! Live a happy life and don't ever give them the time of day again.

Answer 4

i stayed. i still don't know if he ever slept with her, though in my heart i know he did. the emotional affair i know all about, but it still hurts. i decided to stay because i believe in second chances. however, i do not believe in third chances. i'm not the revenge type person because it doesn't solve anything. he was off the leash once, but now it's a choke chain.

Answer 5

Oh it was sweet revenge..... after I dumped & insulted him, I prepared a nice little package with many little romantic notes he had handwritten to me during our relationship, printed some very graphic emails, and sent all this to the other woman with a letter describing her the relationship I had with whom she believed to be "her man". Boy that caused some trouble between them...!!!! But eventually they got back together (they had such a siiiiccckkk relationship) and ended up getting married and having a kid...... poor kid! I'm sure his parents have not changed ever since, so I just hope he won't have to put up with a life full of drama, infidelities (she cheated on him too), break-ups and get-backs........

Answer 6

I was leaving him when I found out. Went right out and had one night stand. He is still pissed at me about it and it has been 13 years. So, I guess you could say I got revenge. I am remarried and we just celebrated our 8th Anniversary.

Answer 7

it depends..i'll stay if i have kids just for the sake of them! i'll just ask first why he do that to me? what's the reason? there's a counseling and we can go there just to fix our problem! i won't let our family be broken just because he cheated on me.. i have lot of things to consider before i make a decision.. and if ever he continue cheating on me despite that all and nothing has changed then its time for me to do what would be right for us..! revenge won't be the answer to our problem!! praying is the best way to keep our relationship intact..

Answer 8

Of course you stay. Remember the vows..."In good times and bad for better or worse" You don't give up on a marriage because of cheating. Suck it up and work it out.

Answer 9

CARMA! When someone does something bad to you believe me in time it will come back on them 10x worse. You diserve better than someone that will cheat on you so leave. You will hate yourself if you stay.

Answer 10

I stayed, not sure if I'll stay for ever, but for now I am here. I wanted to seek revenge on both of them, to f*ck her life up for sinking her claws into my husband and to make him pay for what he did to me. I came up with ideas for revenge for both of them, but I couldnt bring myself to do it to him. What i wanted to do to him was tell his Army commander that he commited adultery, adultery is frowned upon in the military and it could have ruined his career. WEll, if i was gonna stay with him, that would have hurt me, as well, so that would have been stupid, wouldnt it have been? What i did to her was very cold and cruel and showed no mercy, hmmmm....kinda just like what she did to me, and looking back I feel no guilt or regret for it. I guess I'm just a mean b*tch like that. f*ck with me, and I dont get mad, I get even. I waited patiently for her to dig her own grave, which she did, and I took the ball and rolled with the oppurtunity she gave to me to ruin her life and take from her what she loved the most, just like what she did to me. She was also in the military, and she popped positive for cocaine use and was discharged from the army. She is a single mother going through a divorce, and i called DCFS on her and informed them of her drug use and her positive drug test and led them in the right direction to proove it. Well, needless to say, she has lost custody of her daughter and the kid now lives with dad. Do i feel bad for that? Hell no, no kid deserves to live with a coke whore mother anyways. What kind of mother can she possibly be if she is blowing that stuff up her nose? And to be honest with you, I AM getting my own form of revenge on my husband. For I often remind him of what he did to his family and what our kids went through. They dont know the details or even what was done, but at one point, our family life was turned upside down by all of this and our kids suffered because of HIM...so he can live with that for the rest of life.