Have you ever been cheated on and?

Question

just pretended it did not happen, or ignored? If so why?

Answer 1

Yes I have been cheated on before and I didn't ignore it or pretend like it didn't happen. It's really hard to do something like that b/c it hurts when you get cheated on.

Answer 2

I was cheated on in during my marriage and during a long term relationship (6 years==2 kids). I ingored it both times.

Why? Because I was much more concerned with keeping the family unit together than I was with worrying about them having sex. Obviously my plan did not work! That is because even though I didn't care about the sex aspect of the cheating, the lying made me beyond resentful. After a while I had nothing left to put into the relationships, I simply shut down emotionally.

Now I am in a much better relationship where we both consider honesty to be the most important thing. When we feel a need to bring others into our sex life, we do it together.

Answer 3

I was in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years, and found out he had been seeing someone else for a year and a half. I felt like such a jerk, I decided to pretend it didnt happen and take him back because he did the crying thing and apologizing and all that. After a while, I just couldn't live with myself anymore, Every waking moment I was wondering where he was, and more importantly who he was with. I guess I just thought that somehow I could get over it and move on. Trust me, you can only pretend for so long.

Answer 4

Yes I was cheated on and I ignored it she was a minor and he was 51 years old.I finally left after 3 years of him meeting her to have his affairs.I was set up to leave but when I tried he would threaten to hurt my child that was six years old.I was afraid to leave so I stayed for 3 years. We were married for nine years but as far as I know he only cheated for the last 3.

Answer 5

Yes, I've been cheated on..... and no, of course I'd have never been able to "pretend it didn't happen"..... I just dumped his sorry azz (after creating some trouble with "the other woman" LOL -- I hope he learned his lesson) and moved on!!!

Answer 6

yes i was cheated on but chose not to ignore it, because if u ignore it they will only keep doing it. and keeping something like that inside just to keep that person with u doesn't ever guarantee any kind of resolution to the problem. keeping quiet just damages ones ego and self worth even more than bringing it out in the open and letting the other person know exactly what they did to u.

Answer 7

Ignoring something doesn't make it go away. You either end your relationship or you choose to work through whatever issue caused the cheating in the first place.
If not, you're always going to suspect everything they say and do to be lies, and you'll be destroying your relationship with your doubts.

Answer 8

I confronted the ex while checking the cell phone bill. He denied it but later admitted it since he got caught. We divorced, he is in jail and the woman he cheated me with dumped him--- ha ha ha. I remarried and living the good life.

Answer 9

Honey, my boyfriend of 2 years up and married someone else and then "forgot" to tell me about it. I had to find out from his new wife's exboyfriend. Talk about a surprise. I then showed him the same courtesy he had shown me by not taking his calls any longer. Sometimes, silence speaks volumes.

Answer 10

i was talking with a friend of mine the other day that said she was pretty sure that her hubby had cheated on her a few times but she didn't say anything to him and she didn't want to know. i just couldn't imagine doing that. it would eat me alive not knowing. having to deal with knowing the details of my own hubby's affair is bad, but at least i know.